Thursday, December 27, 2012

10 Most Important Things Men Love About Women

 What is it that men really love about women? Here is one of my many approaches to that question.

On many occasions, when I am in need of some inspiration for my writing, I usually go to a cafe and just observe how people interact with each other, especially couples. Today I spotted a young couple who were sitting across from my table. It was really interesting to observe how they were flirting. Obviously it was clear they didn't know each other very well,  they were probably on one of their few first encounters. You could easily tell by the way the guy was moving his body and how talkative and energetic he was, that they didn't know each other so well. He didn't stop advertising himself and she was constantly touching her hair and posing. It was a beautiful dance to watch.  However, without even knowing it, they gave me the idea to write about what it is that men love about women.

Since my blogs are for women about men, here is the 10 most important things men love about women.

1. Looks.
You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful however men appreciate when you are nicely put together. 

2. Femininity.
A woman that is comfortable in her skin and radiates sex appeal.

3. Confidence.
You like who you are.

4. Happiness. 
There is light coming out of you. 

5 Vulnerability.
She is in touch with her feelings.

6. Passion for Life.
She wants to do something with her life. 

7. Receptiveness.
She is lovable. 

8. Personality.
The part in you that is unique.

9.  A Good Listener.
They more you listen without giving your opinion the more he will open up.

10. Mysterious.
The less you talk about you, the more interesting you become and appealing to his eyes. 

Men in general want a woman that can be vulnerable with him. A woman that can be receptive to his love, a woman that can support him when the road gets rough. A woman that will believe in him and his judgement without losing her identity. If he can find in you the attributes that will melt his heart, you might get the chance to have a great long term relationship or a great boyfriend.

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Sunday, December 9, 2012

10 Solutions To Stop Fights In The Relationship

The way in which men and women deal with conflict is very different from one another.  For a man, getting mad is one thing, but whether or not he is able to control himself is quite a different thing.
When men are presented with a conflictive situation, they have pretty much two reactions. They either fight or they pull back. Just because he has chosen to pull back doesn't necessarily mean he is giving up.  For the most part he is just avoiding becoming physically violent with you. This is something that not all men have the capacity to control, as I have mentioned before.

Take for instance Rihanna's case with her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown.  They got into a fight and the next thing that happened, as we all know, is that she was physically abused. Could she have prevented the situation from escalating? It all depends on the type of man a woman is dating.  I came from a verbally and physically abusive family.  Therefore, I understand that some people just cannot control themselves.  However, there is hope; all you really need to do is bring some awareness to what is acceptable and not acceptable when dealing with conflicts in a relationship.

The 10 Solutions to Stop Fights

1. Let Him Be Right When He Is Wrong.
I know you are smarter than he is, however let him win when he becomes “funny.”
2. Don’t Physically Challenge Him.
Don't make the first move to touch him, don't even try it as a joke.
3. Don't Make Childish Comments.
Again, watch your mouth. 
4. Don't Force Him to Give You an Answer.
If he says "I have nothing to say," he means it.
5. Don't Follow Him Around The House with Nagging Demands.
This is not the moment to show him drama. Give Him 30 minutes to calm down.
6. Don't Act Like a Crazy Jealous Possessive Girlfriend.
Don't go through his things to find some "evidence." If he finds out, you will be in trouble.
7. Don't Manipulate Him with Fear or Guilt.
Don’t say things like "I am going to leave you," or "You don't love me."
8. Don't Accuse Him of Sleeping Around.
If you touch that bottom, he will end up cheating on you.
9. Don't Call Your Friends to Talk Bad About Him.
You will get the worse of him.
10. Don't Play the Martyr.
Be mature and take responsibility for your 50% and let him do his part.
Puff, I think I have done some of these mistakes myself in the past. That's why I know how easily a normal conversation can degenerate into something else. Especially because we don't really know how differently men will react to the same approach.
If you think you might not be able to control yourself, then express your anger to a friend, let her hear your pain or if you don't have someone that close, write a letter. "Pain Letters" can be very therapeutic at times. The choice is yours. Make the right one.

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Sunday, December 2, 2012

Decode the 10 Things Men Try to Hide.

Men have their own way to express or let us know what they want and they usually do it in a very subtle way.  
It is very important for women to be able to decode what is going on behind their words. What is it they really mean?

Here are 10 things you might hear from men and the real truth behind it. 

1.  I like you a lot however I am not really looking for a relationship at the moment. 
The message is "let's just have fun cuz I don't want to deal with your drama."

2.  I am married however it is not working and I am planning to divorce.
The message is  "I am not available but I am going to make you think that I may be soon, so I can get laid now. "

3.   What a great friend you are.
If he says that, he is not interested in you. He doesn't find you attractive enough. 

4.  The economy is tough this days.
"I don't have a job and I don't have any intention to look for one either." 

5.  I haven't had a serious girlfriend for the last 5 years.
He loves to be single and has no intention to settle down. 

6.  I love tall women.
He is probably 5' 7'' and has a napoleon complex. 

7.  I care about  you.
If a man says that, he means "I loves you."

8. I need space.
Stop being on his back, he is getting tired of you.

9. Can we still be friends?
"Can I still have sex with you?"

10. I didn't call lately because I have been very busy with work this days.
He was probably very busy seducing someone else beside you. 

Remember one thing, if a man is really interested in you, he will find time for you. Any excuse you might hear from him is just a way to create some distance between the two of you.  Ask yourself whether you have contributed to his aloofness and how can you take your power back.  Men love women that are self-centered, a woman that loves herself more than she will love him. He knows if she loves herself enough he will be seen in her eyes as an important part of her life instead of him becoming her everything. This is a tough lesson for most women. I have gone though this experience with the men in my life and it hasn't been an easy one to learn.  Come on girls we can do it...

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Thursday, November 29, 2012

The 3 Mistakes Of Living Together

I would like to address some of the reasons why it is not a good idea to move in with your guy. It doesn't really matter whether you have just met your guy or whether you have been together for a long time, moving with him can not always work in your favor.

Here is a couple of things for you to keep in mind, before you take the step to move in with him. 

1. The Chemistry And Mystery Will Go, Down The Road. 

It's one thing for you to stay over his place once in a while and another thing to move all your stuff into his house. Having to share the same place can create friction between the two of you, since you might not like the way he does things. When you have your own place, you know that when you are together you are going to share great quality time. You know you both want to see each other and you both want to make the effort. When you move in with your guy, it is very easy to take the other person for grounded. It is also very easy to let yourself go, because part of the mystery dies as we choose to share the same space 24 hour a day. 

2. Men Love Challenges, Men Love Conquering...

I know for some women, living together with a man might mean having the guy just for them, having him committed to yourself and being exclusive to you. Well, I wish I could say that is the case. Unfortunately, in most cases, the truth is that they will get bored with having it given to them that easy. Men lose a lot of interest when things are being given to them without them having to work for it. They know how important is it to work hard for what they want, they know that in order to get to the top of the world, they need to deserve to be there. They know they need to constantly have to prove how valuable they really are. 

3. Your Sex Life Will Also Change

When you share the same place with your guy, in the first few years you both are going to be very excited with each other. You are going to have a lot of fun since everything between the two of you is new. With time, the chemistry you felt in the first place will start to dissipate. The reason why the chemistry can easily disappear, is because part of the mystery of not knowing everything about the other person is now all revealed.  The more comfortable he gets around you, the more attached he will become and the less appealing it will be for him to want to have sex with you. He will start seeing you in a different light. You will become more like a mother figure to him. He will start questioning his virility. He will want to get some external validation since at home everything is already being set. 
I am not saying this is what happen to all couples, If you are smart enough to create some distance while living with your partner, then you might survive and keep your relationship and the flame in the long term. 

Some people think that living together and having different schedules would create the distance they need from their partners. The truth is that the distance you actually need to create with your partner is something you need to do while sharing same space. Not when away doing your own things. How are you going to do it? I can help you out. I can show you the right tools that will help you keep the love and fire in your relationship. 

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Sunday, November 25, 2012

The Secret To Keep The " Chemistry " Alive.

In my own experience, with the men in my life, I have learned that chemistry comes in different packages. I have met some men with whom I had great chemistry with in the first few minutes, to find out later on that they were just narcissistic, with some others the chemistry wasn't that intense however they had a bigger impact on me. In the long run, I know that chemistry can also deteriorate in the relationship, if we don't treat it properly.

Chemistry as most of us have experienced in our lives, is something that takes us over when it happens between two people, we feel as if we're in nirvana. The effect that it produces in us, can be easily compared with that of cocaine. Chemistry creates addiction, where we long for the person who has created or activated the arousing feeling in us. We long for the high.
The curious thing about chemistry is that we either have it or we don't. It is not something we can fabricate. Most of the time, chemistry will happen when we are around someone who happens to smell a little bit like mommy or daddy. I know it sounds weird, but it really makes sense, since the first people we get in contact with in our first years of life is our caregivers. This is why chemistry is so important in the first few minutes of interaction. Men usually are better at picking up on energy than women are. For women, it can take us few days before we can actually know that the chemistry was there. Once the chemistry has been recognized, it something that keeps growing between the people involved - the next step is to make sure we don't damage it. You see, chemistry doesn't really last forever, the Universe gives us a free ride that last about three years. Then if we haven't worked out the communication part of the relationship, we will probably start finding faults in everything the other person does.

Keeping the chemistry alive it is matter of knowing what you are doing, it is knowing that if you consummate the relationship too fast, you will kill the process of growing together. Moving with your partner will also kill romance in the long term. If you are already living with your sweetheart, there are a few things you could do in order to keep the flame. For more information, private consultation are now available, email me at and remember even though people think that chemistry is all they need. I will need to insist on the communication part as an important ingredient for a long lasting relationship.

Love u.

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Monday, November 19, 2012

The 6 Secrets Men Keep Away From Women

Men in general are not so different from women, they also want to be loved and understood. However, society has always played a big role in how women and men are supposed to be or act.

From a young age, little boys get mixed messages. They are encouraged on one side to compete, to excel, to win and at the same time we want them to not show any type of aggression when around family members, work, or in public places. These young boys are rewarded when they are performing according to our standards and put down when they show any type of emotion. Emotions are then seen as a weakness of character, something that can't be shared with others. When these boys turn into men, we find out that many of them don't really know how to relate to their women. They either treat their woman as a mother figure or they directly ignore her needs completely.

To help a man to come out of his cave, he needs to feel safe.  However, even though many women complain about their man not being able to share his feelings, most women are not really ready for the truth. The truth is that you might not like him sharing and that his sincerity of heart might push you away.

So here are the major areas in which men keep secrets.

1. Their need for their father's love and admiration.
Men in general really need their father's validation so they can be free to love unconditionally.

2. Their desire for friendship and support from other men.
Men need male friends, someone to connect with and open up to when things gets rough, someone they can count on.

3. Their attachment to their jobs as their ultimate goal. 
Many men will lose themselves in their job; their jobs can easily became their identity.

4. Their real truth about their dependency on women. 
Most men have an unresolved attachment issue that started up with their mothers. This is something they will need to face in order to have a better relationship with their women in their life.

5. Their anger toward women.
Men can easily develop anger toward women for having to be responsible for them in exchange for sex and support. This is something they will keep hiding within themselves.

6. Men's denial of their right to feel uncertain, fearful or hurt.
When in pain men will show their feelings with madness and anger instead of talking directly about what is that they are feeling.

This information is based on research, studies and my own experiences from men with whom I have personally helped and discussed this.

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Friday, November 16, 2012

5 Ways in Which Men Express Love

Men have their own way of expressing love and sometimes it is kind of hard for women to read the signs because we are more used to their seductive words than we are looking at their actions.

Today I will share the 5 basic signs you will need to look for in your man, to determine whether or not he is showing you love.

Here is how he will approach love

1. He will tell you how much he cares about you. 
A man is more comfortable telling you how much he cares for you than he is saying "I love you". It is not that he won't say it, it is just that you will hear him more using this other approach.

2. He will want to help you out when in need. 
Men love to be needed, however you can't abuse his generosity by asking for too much help all at once. He will feel as if you are trying to take advantage of him or trying to control him. So be careful, just ask in little doses.

3. He will want you to be part of his everyday life. 
He will make sure to include you in his plans, he will want to show you to the world.

4. He will make time for the relationship.
His relationship with you will be a huge part of his life. He won't have excuses about how he needs to structure his time to see you. He will just show his love for you with his actions.

5. He will want to protect you. 
A man in love, is a man that will want to become your savior. He will want you to feel secure around him, he will want to give you anything you want, just to see you smile around him. He will bring the moon to your feet if needed. He will not let you go that easy.

A man in love, is a man that loses his rationality to became emotionally vulnerable to you. If he can't be vulnerable to your needs, you probably don't have his heart. You might just have his penis.

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Monday, November 12, 2012

The Reason Why Men Are Afraid Of Commitment?

Hello World,

I will like to share with all of you, a delicate subject related with men and commitment.

I am currently helping a friend of mine who is having trouble with her man. Now, because of her situation with him and even though at the moment they are not together, he is still in her heart and she would like to have him back. Because of her, today I would like to address this giant problem most men have about commitment. Why do they fear commitment? And what is the real reason behind it?

Most men in general have been brought up with a father figure that was either absent or emotionally unavailable. Many young men have the urgent need to feel approved and validated by their fathers - they want to measure up to their father's expectations. When they were not able to fulfill their father's requests, love was then withdraw was a way of punishment. These boys will later on in life, associate emotional distance with love, they will recreate the same type of environment where they will withdraw in order to get their way, in order to manipulate the outcome. They will also be afraid of closeness for fear of being rejected again. In the boy's mind love is something that is conditional. Love becomes something that can only be given when the other person works for it, when the other person deserves it, according to his standards.

Deep down, what he is really looking for, is his fathers validation. Once he finally gets the approval he needs from his father, he will be open to love without restrictions. Then commitment won't be such a big deal for him. Getting close to someone will not necessarily mean weakness or the loss of his independency. He will not need to have to prove his masculinity with thousands of women, he will know within himself that it is ok to be vulnerable with one woman without losing his identity. He will learn that love means closeness.

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Friday, November 9, 2012

The Secret To A Healthy Long Term Relationship

Relationships as we all know, are not easy, they usually take time to build and we don't really ever  have any type of guarantee that they will last.  A lot of people confuse the terms "relationship" as being intimate with someone and also what "intimacy" really means.
You can be in a relationship with a man and have no intimacy with him. Intimacy doesn't mean having sex with a regular partner. Intimacy means showing your heart to the other person. In order to show your heart you need to be vulnerable to expose your thoughts, your fears, your worries, your hidden secrets - in other words being able to be the real you. Most people are really afraid of it, for fear of being rejected, fearing to be seen in a different light. People will masquerade themselves behind an unreal facade just to protect themselves. Relationships then, end up in separation, divorce, affairs, etc.

To build a healthy relationship means work, means commitment, means responsibility for the people involved as a team. You see, in a relationship there is always three people, there is the two of you and the relationship. Everything we do, every sacrifice we make, we do it for the relationship. When we commit with the relationship and we keep our agreements, we are showing to our partner what real love is. In the process of growing together us a couple, there is going to be some disagreement, some frustrations, some difficult moments. These difficulties are there in order for us to learn to be able to adjust and correct things within the relationship. To do this, we must learn how to communicate with our partner in an efficient way, to avoid more friction. This is not an easy task.
The right way to do it, is to wait for things to calm down and then ask your partner sometime during the day, to discuss some important and delicate matters related to the relationship. Don't go to sleep, without having resolved your conflicts with your honey.
When the time is right, you will then need to be able to let your partner know what it is that you want or don't want in the relationship, at the same time you will also need to allow room for him to express himself too and then come to a middle ground together.

A lot of couple, want to think they have good communication in the relationship until they are confronted with a conflict,  then all you hear them do is intimidate and seduce each other into getting their ways first. The Relationship then becomes a power struggle, where they both want to be heard, they both want to lead, they both want to be understood and nothing really gets to be resolved.

The first thing you need to do when in disagreement with your partner , is to think how important it is for you to be right. If his approach is not something you would like to take in consideration, you don't need to fight back, you don't need to defend your position, all you need to do is ask him for another suggestion since the one he gave you is not really working for you. Let him know that you are open to other approaches in order to resolve the conflict. If this is not working for you then you are probably coming on too strong. Trust me, I also make that same mistake when I become emotional with my guy and I overreact, I sometimes just can't help it. Then after the fight is over, I will feel really bad about it. What I have learned about conflicts is that you are not always going to get it right but at least if you can control your impulses in the moment, you will be getting better results.
If you could for instant "Just think before you act, instead of reacting and then thinking" he would be mesmerized by your rationality. He will see you as an equal, someone that is able to control your emotions and be totally rational in the middle of chaos.

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Love u all.

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Addictions and CoDependency in the Relationship.

Men - Addictions and /or bad Habits .

How many of you girls have been dating or are in a relationship with a man that has some type of addiction? In my case I have dated some quite interesting ones. I remember going out with a guy who at the beginning seemed perfectly fine. Until I went to his house for a dinner with his sister (who was his roommate at the time). Of course he took me there for two reasons, one he was looking for his sisters validation and two, well I am sure you already know that one...
He was a chef, a pretty good one and he wanted to impress me with his cooking. So I gave him the complements he was fishing for. However I did realize that my validation didn't seem to be enough for him. He started acting out in weird ways. His sister was constantly excusing his behavior but I knew right there that something wasn't right. Later on in the "relationship" I found out that he had a major problem with alcohol and of course, women. I learn in our short time together that he only cared about his own feelings, his own problems and worries. He did not ever want to be there for me or even hear my pain. The good news is that I left him, it wasn't easy because I was already bonded to him. Yes, you are right... I bonded with the wrong guy, a mistake I had to make at that time.

The reason why I have shared this history with you, is because I want to remind you that there is always signs from the beginning in a relationship. Men will always tell you in the first 30 minutes of knowing you, what they are all about. If we miss the signs I can guarantee you that we will pay the price in the long run.

Now, lets say for instance that you happen to be dating a guy that has an addiction. Having an addiction means that, he has a relationship with that addiction. His addiction is his best friend. His  addiction has became his most important priority and without it, he can't function. His brain craves the addiction. Addictions also come in pairs, where there is an addiction there is always some other ones clustered with it. In other words, addictions are also linked with sex, porn, compulsive masturbation, gambling, strip bars,  etc.

When a person becomes addicted to mind-altering drugs, it is because they are looking for some  validation and to also escape from pain. Pain that he or she is carrying from disappointments, frustrations, etc. A person with an addiction, is a person that doesn't want to face reality, the reality of the up and down of life. He or she wants to stay in their fantasy world where rejections doesn't really exist. The addiction gives to the person the impression of always being there for him/her when no one else is. The addiction became their companion. They both are pretty much facing the world together. Without the addiction, the person feels naked, no place to go, no place to be.

These types of people need a lot of attention, a lot of reassurance and lot of love. It is all about them. Now, you as a woman need to come to terms with it, if this is something you want for you. You see, a man under any type of addiction loses his rationality and he becomes more feelings centered. He wants to be taken care of, he wants you to be his savior, his mother, his lover, his best friend, etc. However they will not be there for you when you need them because they can't be. The guy you are dating is not the real person, he is not in his real mind set. He is helpless.
Women who date these types of men, are also damaging themselves. Nature didn't make women to be masculine and act as the protector of the relationship. Most women that are adopting this role, end up suffering some type of sickness. The body will show the signs sooner or later.

So what is the solution? There is a way to change the whole scenario, however you won't avoid the pain of going through the process. You can either confront your partner in a healthy way, however you will need to know how to do this or stay in the relationship until the pain to stay is bigger than the pain to leave. Whether you decide to stay or to leave in both cases the pain is guaranteed. I really never advise to leave the relationship, I always recommend for the people involved to work the conflict within the relationship. Remember, if your partner has an addiction and you are with him, you are probably codependent too. Being in a relationship with someone who has an addiction made them being dependable on your emotional support, something that can actually give you a sense of power to begin with. So my question to you will be, are you ready to make the right changes to break the cycle you are in? Take time to think about it, because it is not an easy task to do. I can guarantee you, that as you make the proper changes, he will have to grow with you or the relationship will dissolve by itself.

You see, the guy you have got as I said before is not the real him. So if he cleans up his act you might not even like who he really is. At the same time, it might even happen to him too. So again, think about what is it that you want or don't want and take some positive action.

If you want to learn how to confront your partner in a healthy way, I can help you. Private consultations are now available on Skype and remember " Knowledge is Power "

Love you all.

Thursday, November 1, 2012

When Things Move Too Fast.

How many times have you started dating a guy you really like and suddenly everything starts going too fast? How do you know when it's time to slow things down?

Men come in different styles. There are men who likes to hunt and men who want to be hunted. They both are acceptable, it is just a matter of what feel right for you. Today I am going to talk about the guys that want to go after what they want. This type of man operates from their masculine side. They want to lead, they want to control, they want to conquer and compete. A man like this likes to take risks. He sees something he likes and he goes after it. They know that in order to get their needs met, in order to gratify themselves, they will have to act really quickly with women. You see, men can also be emotional when it comes to romance and the reason why is because in order to avoid getting hurt by being rejected, a man in his masculine energy will first see a woman as a sex object if what he wants is to just get laid. He knows that by doing this, he will have to act out as fast as possible to get his way. The faster he gets to convince her of his interest by telling her all the things he would do for her,  the easier the chance for him to score. If he misses the chance to act quickly, he knows he will have to face rejection - something men are not good at dealing with.

Women in general, especially young one, need to understand that men are performers by nature. They see everything as a big competition and their bodies are made to penetrate things, it is not that they mean bad to us. It is just that they can't help it. It is a woman's job to elevate a man's consciousness from his instinctive nature to his spiritual level. Most men are not as in touch with their bodies as women are. For a man, their bodies are an instrument they use to fulfill some needs. When they are hungry they eat, when they are tired they sleep and when they want to release stress, they have sex. Nothing more.
If what you want as a woman is to make love and also have sex with a man, you will need to learn how to put on breaks, when he comes too fast on you. If you don't stop him he will run the show as he pleases and then leave you with empty hands.

A couple of things you could do when he starts playing his cards with you, meaning coming on too strong. Let's say for instance that you went on a date with a guy and right after, he starts texting you with consistency. What could you do about it? I always recommend to answer his text, just to be respectful. However, if he keeps pushing his way, don't just keep playing his game. Just breathe and let 3 days go by. Let the excitement he has created in you go down, so you can think with your head instead of reacting from your emotions. Remember, when it comes to romance you need to control your emotions  so he can't see your weakness. When a man is trying to create a reaction in you, he is just looking to see how to get you wrapped around his finger. If he gets his way first before you get to elevate his consciousness the game is over. He wins.

One thing I have learned about men is that they will never between them reveal anything that might be used against them in the future. They will not talk about their personal stuff or pain if it is not with a much older man who can act as a mentor. With that in mind, it is important that women remember to keep their emotions in place, in order not to reveal their weak points to a man when he is playing games with you. I am not saying not to be vulnerable, I am not encouraging that, however what I do recommend is for you to be rational when he is trying to make you his sex object.

Talk to you soon and remember " Knowledge is Power".

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Saturday, October 27, 2012

Why Do I Keep Attracting The Same Type of Men?.

Hello World,

Today I am going to talk about a subject I always hear about. Most women are concerned that they keep attracting the same type of men. And they wonder whether or not they have any power to change it... Remember it is not who you attract that matters, what matters is who you chose to keep.

A big percentage of women complain about their men; they deep inside would like to attract a different type of man, however they don't know how to do it or are not sure the reason why these men share the same qualities. Women, there needs to be some changes in order to attract different men!

Now one thing I have learned about is the power of attraction. In life, it is not so much who we attract that matters, what really matters is who we choose to keep. We, as individuals have the power of choice and at the end of the day, you and only you are responsible for your choices.

Let me first explain one thing.  Men and women are both androgynous by nature, which means they both have feminine and masculine aspects within themselves. Whether you personally choose to be in your masculine or feminine energy is not de terminated by your gender. It is a choice you make and most of the time you are not even consciously aware of which energy you are using.

For instance, if a woman happens to be more comfortable in her feminine energy, she will probably be more passive and receptive to a man approaching her. If, on the contrary, she chooses to be more in her masculine side, she will probably lack patience, vulnerability and will most likely love to be in control of the outcome. Whichever way you chose, it is ok as long as you are consciously aware.

Now, if you are not happy with the type of men you are attracting in your life, in order to change it, you will have to first make the changes within you. You will have to change the energy you are choosing to mate. In other words, if you are choosing to be in your masculine energy and are doing the hunting, you will probably attract men that will be more comfortable in their passive feminine energy. These men will love your assertiveness, they will love your independency and drive. These men will not feel challenged by you.

On the contrary, if you are in your masculine side and happen to attract a man in his masculine energy. You will both only clash with each other. Fights and misunderstanding will be all you get, since both of you will be looking to lead in the relationship. You will both be looking to be respected and be right at the same time. This type of relationship doesn't usually last and if they do, they end up really bad because they both are really miserable in their company.

If you are already in a serious relationship you would like to keep, and you both are in your masculine energy, the only way you could still work it out is by learning how to complement each others energy.
If you want to learn how to do this, I can help you. I have helped many women in the same situation as you are.
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Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Why It Takes Men So Long To Get Back to Us.

How many of you have been waiting for a guy's call for what seems like forever? What is it about men that, in general, they all need time to think things over? What is it that requires that much thought...?

God or the Universe has created men and women in different ways, especially right handed men and women. Right handed men are very logical and pragmatic, they are made to get things done. They want  challenges, they love to make things structured and their bodies are made to penetrate.
I know what you women are probably thinking right now, however the truth is that is the way they are built. They can only do one thing at a time and they don't process things the same way women do. When you find yourself waiting for him to contact you, don't freak out, don't make up stories in your head. Just buy time, just know that there is nothing wrong with you or your guy.

The less you chase him when he pulls back, the more chances you will have for him to come back stronger than ever and if he doesn't, at least you will still be young, beautiful and desirable enough to find another man with better resources.

Learn to be in your femininity, learn to be passive, learn to be vulnerable and receptive. Men love women who are grounded in themselves. And remember when he decides to call you back don't make a scene or have an attitude. Just be happy that he is contacting you.

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Friday, October 19, 2012

The Mama's Boy Syndrome.

What can you do if you happen to be dating a mama's boy? What are the chances that you could develop a healthy relationship with him, without having to deal with his mother complex?

Mama's boys are the type of men who have never grown up. These men haven't had a woman at the age of ten teach them that women, animals and things are not on the planet for his own pleasure.

They were pretty much left alone to do as they please. They didn't have any structure in their life and nobody taught them how to develop discipline or how to be responsible for their actions. These boys  have always had a woman picking up after them - they were not able to grow according to their age.

As adults they are constantly looking for attention and reassurance. They also usually have difficulties with delaying gratification. You would think that having had a mother serving them, these boys wouldn't have felt as rejected as they did. This is far from the truth because they were rejected the right of being supervised as their age requires.These boys will grow into men with a masculinity that has been deprived. They will be looking for women that act like surrogate mothers to them, in order to find the validation and acceptance they didn't have.

Dr . Dan Kiley in his magnificent book "The Peter Pan Syndrome" explains how if a potential victim of PPS can be reached before the sex role conflict is fully manifested (sex role conflict happens between the ages for 12 to 17)  the chances of constructive change are good. But once sexual inadequacy is repressed, narcissism and chauvinism follow.

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Wednesday, October 17, 2012

How To Deal With Your Partner's Infidelity

I know how difficult this subject can be and how hard it is to face the fact that your partner might be a cheater.

According to David Buss, Ph. D. there are two types of personalities who usually stray, the narcissistic type and the low conscientiousness type. They both lack empathy for people's pain.
A narcissistic person is someone that only cares about himself and doesn't take responsibility for his actions. They can be very seductive and charming at times and they are always fishing for complements.  Often they exaggerate their accomplishments and talents. Narcissistic people do get married, however their way of being doesn't ever change.
A low conscientiousness person is characterized by traits such as unreliability, carelessness, disorganization, laziness and lack of self control.  It is very possible that you might be dealing with one of these two types of personalities.

Now going back to the question of how to deal with infidelity, the first thing to be aware of is that it is possible that if you catch your partner cheating one time,  he probably did it before.

You can do two things to stop the situation from escalating. If you happen to be married and he is the provider, you will need to either confront him in a healthy way or stay and pretend nothing is really wrong.
If you chose to stay you are pretty much accepting the situation and saying that it is ok. Maybe his status or position is more important to you than his extra marital sexual life. If on the contrary his behavior is not acceptable to you then you will need to confront him in a healthy way.  Here are a couples of things you must do.

You need to communicate with him what you are about to do (more on that in a minute). It is important that you let him know about the changes you will make in order to protect yourself if he doesn't correct the situation. Tell him you won't be there for him anymore and for the next two months you will be dating around too. Tell him after that period of time if he still hasn't changed you will then proceed with the divorce.
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Sunday, October 14, 2012

Discover The 10 Things Men Want You To Know.

Hello World,

Here is my blog about what men really need from us. Only if you really want to keep him around. Check this out!

If you women want to keep your relationship with your guy, it is important that you understand what he needs from you in order for him to cherish you back. 

Most men have pretty much the same need - they want to be respected. They prefer to give up on love before losing your respect. Here are a couple of things women need to remember about what respect really means for men: 

  1. Don’t give your opinion if he is not asking you for it. When a man opens up to talk, he is just sharing with you his thoughts, ideas, decisions, etc. 
  2. Don’t interrupt him when he is talking. He will feel frustrated and close down if you do. 
  3. Don’t tell him what to do. He will punish you with silence or you will get the worst of him.
  4. Don’t ask him for more attention, more time, more sex. It will turn him off, he will pull back.
  5. Don’t ask him how he feels. Unless he is sick!
  6. Don’t question him. You are not his mother. 
  7. Don’t compete with him. When he is mad it is better to let him win in that moment.
  8. Don’t humiliate him in public. This is the worst thing you can do - you will hurt his ego.
  9. Don’t criticize him with your friends. He wants your support. 
  10. Don’t belittle him with your body language when he is sharing his decision or ideas with you. He will not share them with you anymore. 

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What Can You Do When He Pulls Back?

What happens when after having been dating a guy for whatever period of time, he pulls back and stops calling you. For instance lets say you haven't heard from him in a couple of days.

What would be the right thing for you to do? In my experience with men and I am sure you are going to agree with me, when a guy stops contacting me, I start freaking out! I start to think that maybe he doesn't really like me or he might have found someone else or maybe something has happened to him, like an accident.

I would never think for a moment that maybe he has taken some time apart from me to digest the experience he just had. On many occasions I have found myself going after him. Thinking that maybe it is ok if I make the first move. Unfortunately, what I have found is that 95% of the time after chasing him, he will keep repeating same pattern for a prolonged period.

Finally after all my mistakes, I have learned that in order to have a man be interested in you, he needs the space to be free - he needs to be able to think things out. If in the process of him doing this, we chase him around, he will not have much to think about and he will automatically make up his mind that maybe we are not right for him.

Some women, on the contrary, will start to play games when a man pulls back. She will pretend to be more busy than she really is or will not take his calls when he comes around. For those women who think that a man will be more interested in you if you play with him or you try to torture him, I have some news: He will know your game right away and he will just start playing you right back.

If you want to find out how to get him coming your way. I will teach you the right way. I have helped a lot of women like you, to get it right.

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Thursday, October 11, 2012

How To Get it Right with Guys?

If You really want to know how to get it right with men,
Here is what you will need to know about men. Specially the ones that like to be in charge of the relationship.  These men are called " Masculine Man" .  They love to compete, conquer and control. Here is what they are looking in a woman.

A masculine man will want you to be able to say  ‘No” to casual sex.

Wait a moment, what do you mean? don’t men all want to get laid? Of Course they do for biological reasons. However when a man it is interested in building something else with you things can be a little bit different. Ok so let’s go back to the question. why would a man appreciate a woman saying “ no “ to intercourse? Here are the reason why.

  1. If he can get you in the sack that easily that means other competitors will have the same chances too. In which case, he knows he won’t be able to trust you in the long run. Just because a man wants to go out with you or get into your body, that doesn’t mean you are special. You can only became the “ one” when he can first get to know you, for who you are. 
  2. If he can’t manipulate you to get his needs meet first, you then won’t lose yourself. Well... think about it for a moment, a man is built to provide and protect. If you don’t allow him the space to be a man, he won’t have the chance to fall for you. If all he wants is his own self gratification, then not matter what you do he will soon be out of your life so why would you even try to bond with him. 

Men know they can get a lot of things for free especially if they have status, money and looks. They also know that good things don’t usually come easily. Everything that is good  takes time to build. One thing is clear: we women need to be very patient with them. Don’t stand idly by while you wait for him. Do your things be happy with your own company. Men also love happy women. A man is suppose to come into your life to make you happier but it is not his responsibility to do the work for you. I know it is hard for us women to understand this concept since most of us long for that special man that will save us from our pain.

The good news is that men in general also long for love, they might not show it to us as much as we would like them to do, however the way to get to their hearts is not through their pants.   Don’t let them convince you otherwise, remember they can be very persuasive (that is why we love them). 
If he wants you that badly he will come around. you might think he won’t however let him be frustrated and deal with the pain of not getting it his way. If you chase him around when he pulls away,  you will just turn him into your son. Yes.. you heard right, you will disrespect him and his manhood and all you will get from him, is his penis. 
For most women an emotional connection is more important than the physical one even though we might get confused and get physical first in hopes of getting the attention we long for. 

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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

10 Secrets To Make Him Happy.

Hello Everybody and welcome back to my blog.

This blog is for women about men. It is made to help women understand the heart and mind of  different types of men. This is not a blog to put men or women down. It is informative and it is based on my years of study, knowledge , research, experience, education and MEN.

If you are a woman and will like to keep your guy around. Here is the 10 Secrets men have share with me. If you follow them,  you will show him, the respect he needs from you as a man. I hope you can find this information valuable.

1.Validate him for what he does.
2.Tell him how proud you are of him.
3. Give him complements about his work, about his looks and about him.
4. Listen when he talks, stop your multitasking in these moments.
5. Trust his judgment.
6. Make him feel wanted.
7. Brag about him when in public.He will feel like a King.
8 .Ask his opinion about your thoughts, men love to help us women.
9. Support him, he needs you there so he can take on the world.
10. Give him a lot of sex, his self confidence will thank you.  
I can guaranty you that if you follow this steps, he will be eating at your hand and If he doesn't at least you know you did your 50 % correctly. You will be still young and beautiful to find a better man then.

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Friday, October 5, 2012

Why Your Relationship iIs Not Working?

What is wrong with you? 

Why don't relationships end up as we had expected them to?  What is the secret behind a good relationship? How do people stay married without hating each other?
How many times have you questioned whether or not you were doing the right thing, whether or not you were with the right person, whether or not all your needs are being meet in your relationship?  And even if you have asked these questions, then why is the relationship still not working for you? 

Most of us at some point have experienced the wonderful feeling of meeting someone special, when everything around us looks better and everything seems magical...until the day we wake up from our dream. The person we thought he or she was, now seems different. The things we used to like about
him/her now aggravates us. What the @&%$# happened? 

First I would like to let you know that it is possible to keep the mystery, the desire and the love for your partner. The question is how!  It's all possible... if you are willing to make the effort. 

Here are a couple of things to keep in mind about why relationships don't work in general. 

Let's start from the beginning, when your first met and fell in love with each other. What is it about a person we hardly know (in the early stages) that gives us butterflies in our stomach?  Keep in mind that not knowing everything about this new person is what make us wanting more. 

One of the secrets of having a healthy, long-term relationship is based on " keeping some distance" ! You need some distance between the two of you in order to want to be close. This is the only way we can really appreciate the other person's company.

You also need to find ways to release your stress without expecting your partner to be the only source of support. I know this one can be a little hard.  However, try to find something you would like to do on your own. Remember there has to be an 'I' in order to be an 'Us' . 

Expectations also kill romance.  If your relationship is working, let it be.  You only need to adjust and correct changes as you both grow in the relationship. If you are still unhappy ask yourself what it is that you have that you don't want, and what is it you want that you don't have. Please don't ruminate.  Choose whether you want to accept a situation or not. Then let it go.

Don't do business with your partner; equality doesn't work in romance. He will see you as another competitor. If you still need to talk about business with him, set a time specifically for that.  When it's done go back to being feminine. Asking men for help can be appealing to them but only in little doses. 

If you are facing trouble in the relationship, don't wait until it's too late to be fixed.  Confront your partner in a healthy way but don't pretend the problem doesn't exist. That will only escalate any issues. Communication is love and without it there can be no love. 

Don't forget to take care of yourself and keep up your attractiveness.  Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean the work is already done.  Your looks are a sign of whether you are taking care of your inner self or not. Don't lose it! You are the only thing that is guaranteed to stay with you to the end of your days. 

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