Why Do I Keep Attracting The Same Type of Men?.

Hello World,

Today I am going to talk about a subject I always hear about. Most women are concerned that they keep attracting the same type of men. And they wonder whether or not they have any power to change it... Remember it is not who you attract that matters, what matters is who you chose to keep.

A big percentage of women complain about their men; they deep inside would like to attract a different type of man, however they don't know how to do it or are not sure the reason why these men share the same qualities. Women, there needs to be some changes in order to attract different men!

Now one thing I have learned about is the power of attraction. In life, it is not so much who we attract that matters, what really matters is who we choose to keep. We, as individuals have the power of choice and at the end of the day, you and only you are responsible for your choices.

Let me first explain one thing.  Men and women are both androgynous by nature, which means they both have feminine and masculine aspects within themselves. Whether you personally choose to be in your masculine or feminine energy is not de terminated by your gender. It is a choice you make and most of the time you are not even consciously aware of which energy you are using.

For instance, if a woman happens to be more comfortable in her feminine energy, she will probably be more passive and receptive to a man approaching her. If, on the contrary, she chooses to be more in her masculine side, she will probably lack patience, vulnerability and will most likely love to be in control of the outcome. Whichever way you chose, it is ok as long as you are consciously aware.

Now, if you are not happy with the type of men you are attracting in your life, in order to change it, you will have to first make the changes within you. You will have to change the energy you are choosing to mate. In other words, if you are choosing to be in your masculine energy and are doing the hunting, you will probably attract men that will be more comfortable in their passive feminine energy. These men will love your assertiveness, they will love your independency and drive. These men will not feel challenged by you.

On the contrary, if you are in your masculine side and happen to attract a man in his masculine energy. You will both only clash with each other. Fights and misunderstanding will be all you get, since both of you will be looking to lead in the relationship. You will both be looking to be respected and be right at the same time. This type of relationship doesn't usually last and if they do, they end up really bad because they both are really miserable in their company.

If you are already in a serious relationship you would like to keep, and you both are in your masculine energy, the only way you could still work it out is by learning how to complement each others energy.
If you want to learn how to do this, I can help you. I have helped many women in the same situation as you are.
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And Remember  " Knowledge is Power"

Elena

Why It Takes Men So Long To Get Back to Us.

How many of you have been waiting for a guy's call for what seems like forever? What is it about men that, in general, they all need time to think things over? What is it that requires that much thought...?

God or the Universe has created men and women in different ways, especially right handed men and women. Right handed men are very logical and pragmatic, they are made to get things done. They want  challenges, they love to make things structured and their bodies are made to penetrate.
I know what you women are probably thinking right now, however the truth is that is the way they are built. They can only do one thing at a time and they don't process things the same way women do. When you find yourself waiting for him to contact you, don't freak out, don't make up stories in your head. Just buy time, just know that there is nothing wrong with you or your guy.

The less you chase him when he pulls back, the more chances you will have for him to come back stronger than ever and if he doesn't, at least you will still be young, beautiful and desirable enough to find another man with better resources.

Learn to be in your femininity, learn to be passive, learn to be vulnerable and receptive. Men love women who are grounded in themselves. And remember when he decides to call you back don't make a scene or have an attitude. Just be happy that he is contacting you.

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The Mama's Boy Syndrome.

What can you do if you happen to be dating a mama's boy? What are the chances that you could develop a healthy relationship with him, without having to deal with his mother complex?

Mama's boys are the type of men who have never grown up. These men haven't had a woman at the age of ten teach them that women, animals and things are not on the planet for his own pleasure.

They were pretty much left alone to do as they please. They didn't have any structure in their life and nobody taught them how to develop discipline or how to be responsible for their actions. These boys  have always had a woman picking up after them - they were not able to grow according to their age.

As adults they are constantly looking for attention and reassurance. They also usually have difficulties with delaying gratification. You would think that having had a mother serving them, these boys wouldn't have felt as rejected as they did. This is far from the truth because they were rejected the right of being supervised as their age requires.These boys will grow into men with a masculinity that has been deprived. They will be looking for women that act like surrogate mothers to them, in order to find the validation and acceptance they didn't have.

Dr . Dan Kiley in his magnificent book "The Peter Pan Syndrome" explains how if a potential victim of PPS can be reached before the sex role conflict is fully manifested (sex role conflict happens between the ages for 12 to 17)  the chances of constructive change are good. But once sexual inadequacy is repressed, narcissism and chauvinism follow.

If you want to know how to turn a PP or MB into a man, contact me for a private consultation at elenaburnettcoach@gmail.com For  more information, visit me at https://www.facebook.com/Elenaburnettcoach
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Discover The 10 Things Men Want You To Know.

Hello World,

Here is my blog about what men really need from us. Only if you really want to keep him around. Check this out!

If you women want to keep your relationship with your guy, it is important that you understand what he needs from you in order for him to cherish you back. 

Most men have pretty much the same need - they want to be respected. They prefer to give up on love before losing your respect. Here are a couple of things women need to remember about what respect really means for men: 

1. Don’t give your opinion if he is not asking you for it. When a man opens up to talk, he is just sharing with you his thoughts, ideas, decisions, etc. 
2. Don’t interrupt him when he is talking. He will feel frustrated and close down if you do. 
3. Don’t tell him what to do. He will punish you with silence or you will get the worst of him.
4. Don’t ask him for more attention, more time, more sex. It will turn him off, he will pull back.
5. Don’t ask him how he feels. Unless he is sick!
6. Don’t question him. You are not his mother. 
7. Don’t compete with him. When he is mad it is better to let him win in that moment.
8. Don’t humiliate him in public. This is the worst thing you can do - you will hurt his ego.
9. Don’t criticize him with your friends. He wants your support. 
10. Don’t belittle him with your body language when he is sharing his decision or ideas with you. He will not share them with you anymore. 

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Relationship and Dating Coach with more than 15 years working with men.
Elena is now helping women understand the heart and mind of men.