The Mama's Boy Syndrome.

What can you do if you happen to be dating a mama's boy? What are the chances that you could develop a healthy relationship with him, without having to deal with his mother complex?

Mama's boys are the type of men who have never grown up. These men haven't had a woman at the age of ten teach them that women, animals and things are not on the planet for his own pleasure.

They were pretty much left alone to do as they please. They didn't have any structure in their life and nobody taught them how to develop discipline or how to be responsible for their actions. These boys  have always had a woman picking up after them - they were not able to grow according to their age.

As adults they are constantly looking for attention and reassurance. They also usually have difficulties with delaying gratification. You would think that having had a mother serving them, these boys wouldn't have felt as rejected as they did. This is far from the truth because they were rejected the right of being supervised as their age requires.These boys will grow into men with a masculinity that has been deprived. They will be looking for women that act like surrogate mothers to them, in order to find the validation and acceptance they didn't have.

Dr . Dan Kiley in his magnificent book "The Peter Pan Syndrome" explains how if a potential victim of PPS can be reached before the sex role conflict is fully manifested (sex role conflict happens between the ages for 12 to 17)  the chances of constructive change are good. But once sexual inadequacy is repressed, narcissism and chauvinism follow.

If you want to know how to turn a PP or MB into a man, contact me for a private consultation at elenaburnettcoach@gmail.com For  more information, visit me at https://www.facebook.com/Elenaburnettcoach
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Discover The 10 Things Men Want You To Know.

Hello World,

Here is my blog about what men really need from us. Only if you really want to keep him around. Check this out!

If you women want to keep your relationship with your guy, it is important that you understand what he needs from you in order for him to cherish you back. 

Most men have pretty much the same need - they want to be respected. They prefer to give up on love before losing your respect. Here are a couple of things women need to remember about what respect really means for men: 

1. Don’t give your opinion if he is not asking you for it. When a man opens up to talk, he is just sharing with you his thoughts, ideas, decisions, etc. 
2. Don’t interrupt him when he is talking. He will feel frustrated and close down if you do. 
3. Don’t tell him what to do. He will punish you with silence or you will get the worst of him.
4. Don’t ask him for more attention, more time, more sex. It will turn him off, he will pull back.
5. Don’t ask him how he feels. Unless he is sick!
6. Don’t question him. You are not his mother. 
7. Don’t compete with him. When he is mad it is better to let him win in that moment.
8. Don’t humiliate him in public. This is the worst thing you can do - you will hurt his ego.
9. Don’t criticize him with your friends. He wants your support. 
10. Don’t belittle him with your body language when he is sharing his decision or ideas with you. He will not share them with you anymore. 

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What Can You Do When He Pulls Back?

What happens when after having been dating a guy for whatever period of time, he pulls back and stops calling you. For instance lets say you haven't heard from him in a couple of days.

What would be the right thing for you to do? In my experience with men and I am sure you are going to agree with me, when a guy stops contacting me, I start freaking out! I start to think that maybe he doesn't really like me or he might have found someone else or maybe something has happened to him, like an accident.

I would never think for a moment that maybe he has taken some time apart from me to digest the experience he just had. On many occasions I have found myself going after him. Thinking that maybe it is ok if I make the first move. Unfortunately, what I have found is that 95% of the time after chasing him, he will keep repeating same pattern for a prolonged period.

Finally after all my mistakes, I have learned that in order to have a man be interested in you, he needs the space to be free - he needs to be able to think things out. If in the process of him doing this, we chase him around, he will not have much to think about and he will automatically make up his mind that maybe we are not right for him.

Some women, on the contrary, will start to play games when a man pulls back. She will pretend to be more busy than she really is or will not take his calls when he comes around. For those women who think that a man will be more interested in you if you play with him or you try to torture him, I have some news: He will know your game right away and he will just start playing you right back.

If you want to find out how to get him coming your way. I will teach you the right way. I have helped a lot of women like you, to get it right.

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Love ...

How To Get it Right with Guys?

If You really want to know how to get it right with men,
Here is what you will need to know about men. Specially the ones that like to be in charge of the relationship.  These men are called " Masculine Man" .  They love to compete, conquer and control. Here is what they are looking in a woman.

A masculine man will want you to be able to say  ‘No” to casual sex.

Wait a moment, what do you mean? don’t men all want to get laid? Of Course they do for biological reasons. However when a man it is interested in building something else with you things can be a little bit different. Ok so let’s go back to the question. why would a man appreciate a woman saying “ no “ to intercourse? Here are the reason why.

1. If he can get you in the sack that easily that means other competitors will have the same chances too. In which case, he knows he won’t be able to trust you in the long run. Just because a man wants to go out with you or get into your body, that doesn’t mean you are special. You can only became the “ one” when he can first get to know you, for who you are. 
2. If he can’t manipulate you to get his needs meet first, you then won’t lose yourself. Well... think about it for a moment, a man is built to provide and protect. If you don’t allow him the space to be a man, he won’t have the chance to fall for you. If all he wants is his own self gratification, then not matter what you do he will soon be out of your life so why would you even try to bond with him. 

Men know they can get a lot of things for free especially if they have status, money and looks. They also know that good things don’t usually come easily. Everything that is good  takes time to build. One thing is clear: we women need to be very patient with them. Don’t stand idly by while you wait for him. Do your things be happy with your own company. Men also love happy women. A man is suppose to come into your life to make you happier but it is not his responsibility to do the work for you. I know it is hard for us women to understand this concept since most of us long for that special man that will save us from our pain.

The good news is that men in general also long for love, they might not show it to us as much as we would like them to do, however the way to get to their hearts is not through their pants.   Don’t let them convince you otherwise, remember they can be very persuasive (that is why we love them). 

If he wants you that badly he will come around. you might think he won’t however let him be frustrated and deal with the pain of not getting it his way. If you chase him around when he pulls away,  you will just turn him into your son. Yes.. you heard right, you will disrespect him and his manhood and all you will get from him, is his penis. 

For most women an emotional connection is more important than the physical one even though we might get confused and get physical first in hopes of getting the attention we long for. 

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