10 Most Important Things Men Love About Women

 What is it that men really love about women? Here is one of my many approaches to that question.

On many occasions, when I am in need of some inspiration for my writing, I usually go to a cafe and just observe how people interact with each other, especially couples. Today I spotted a young couple who were sitting across from my table. It was really interesting to observe how they were flirting. Obviously it was clear they didn't know each other very well,  they were probably on one of their few first encounters. You could easily tell by the way the guy was moving his body and how talkative and energetic he was, that they didn't know each other so well. He didn't stop advertising himself and she was constantly touching her hair and posing. It was a beautiful dance to watch.  However, without even knowing it, they gave me the idea to write about what it is that men love about women.

Since my blogs are for women about men, here is the 10 most important things men love about women.

1. Looks.

You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful however men appreciate when you are nicely put together. 

2. Femininity.

A woman that is comfortable in her skin and radiates sex appeal.

3. Confidence.

You like who you are.

4. Happiness. 

There is light coming out of you. 

5 Vulnerability.

She is in touch with her feelings.

6. Passion for Life.

She wants to do something with her life. 

7. Receptiveness.

She is lovable. 

8. Personality.

The part in you that is unique.

9.  A Good Listener.

They more you listen without giving your opinion the more he will open up.

10. Mysterious.

The less you talk about you, the more interesting you become and appealing to his eyes. 

Men in general want a woman that can be vulnerable with him. A woman that can be receptive to his love, a woman that can support him when the road gets rough. A woman that will believe in him and his judgement without losing her identity. If he can find in you the attributes that will melt his heart, you might get the chance to have a great long term relationship or a great boyfriend.

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10 Solutions To Stop Fights In The Relationship

The way in which men and women deal with conflict is very different from one another.  For a man, getting mad is one thing, but whether or not he is able to control himself is quite a different thing.

When men are presented with a conflictive situation, they have pretty much two reactions. They either fight or they pull back. Just because he has chosen to pull back doesn't necessarily mean he is giving up.  For the most part he is just avoiding becoming physically violent with you. This is something that not all men have the capacity to control, as I have mentioned before.

Take for instance Rihanna's case with her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown.  They got into a fight and the next thing that happened, as we all know, is that she was physically abused. Could she have prevented the situation from escalating? It all depends on the type of man a woman is dating.  I came from a verbally and physically abusive family.  Therefore, I understand that some people just cannot control themselves.  However, there is hope; all you really need to do is bring some awareness to what is acceptable and not acceptable when dealing with conflicts in a relationship.

The 10 Solutions to Stop Fights

1. Let Him Be Right When He Is Wrong.

I know you are smarter than he is, however let him win when he becomes “funny.”

2. Don’t Physically Challenge Him.

Don't make the first move to touch him, don't even try it as a joke.

3. Don't Make Childish Comments.

Again, watch your mouth. 

4. Don't Force Him to Give You an Answer.

If he says "I have nothing to say," he means it.

5. Don't Follow Him Around The House with Nagging Demands.

This is not the moment to show him drama. Give Him 30 minutes to calm down.

6. Don't Act Like a Crazy Jealous Possessive Girlfriend.

Don't go through his things to find some "evidence." If he finds out, you will be in trouble.

7. Don't Manipulate Him with Fear or Guilt.

Don’t say things like "I am going to leave you," or "You don't love me."

8. Don't Accuse Him of Sleeping Around.

If you touch that bottom, he will end up cheating on you.

9. Don't Call Your Friends to Talk Bad About Him.

You will get the worse of him.

10. Don't Play the Martyr.

Be mature and take responsibility for your 50% and let him do his part.

Puff, I think I have done some of these mistakes myself in the past. That's why I know how easily a normal conversation can degenerate into something else. Especially because we don't really know how differently men will react to the same approach.

If you think you might not be able to control yourself, then express your anger to a friend, let her hear your pain or if you don't have someone that close, write a letter. "Pain Letters" can be very therapeutic at times. The choice is yours. Make the right one.

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Decode the 10 Things Men Try to Hide.

Men have their own way to express or let us know what they want and they usually do it in a very subtle way.  

It is very important for women to be able to decode what is going on behind their words. What is it they really mean?

Here are 10 things you might hear from men and the real truth behind it. 

1.  I like you a lot however I am not really looking for a relationship at the moment. 
The message is "let's just have fun cuz I don't want to deal with your drama."

2.  I am married however it is not working and I am planning to divorce.
The message is  "I am not available but I am going to make you think that I may be soon, so I can get laid now. "

3.   What a great friend you are.
If he says that, he is not interested in you. He doesn't find you attractive enough. 

4.  The economy is tough this days.
"I don't have a job and I don't have any intention to look for one either." 

5.  I haven't had a serious girlfriend for the last 5 years.
He loves to be single and has no intention to settle down. 

6.  I love tall women.
He is probably 5' 7'' and has a napoleon complex. 

7.  I care about  you.
If a man says that, he means "I loves you."

8. I need space.
Stop being on his back, he is getting tired of you.

9. Can we still be friends?
"Can I still have sex with you?"

10. I didn't call lately because I have been very busy with work this days.
He was probably very busy seducing someone else beside you. 

Remember one thing, if a man is really interested in you, he will find time for you. Any excuse you might hear from him is just a way to create some distance between the two of you.  Ask yourself whether you have contributed to his aloofness and how can you take your power back.  Men love women that are self-centered, a woman that loves herself more than she will love him. He knows if she loves herself enough he will be seen in her eyes as an important part of her life instead of him becoming her everything. This is a tough lesson for most women. I have gone though this experience with the men in my life and it hasn't been an easy one to learn.  Come on girls we can do it...

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The 3 Mistakes Of Living Together

I would like to address some of the reasons why it is not a good idea to move in with your guy. It doesn't really matter whether you have just met your guy or whether you have been together for a long time, moving with him can not always work in your favor.

Here is a couple of things for you to keep in mind, before you take the step to move in with him. 

1. The Chemistry And Mystery Will Go, Down The Road. 

It's one thing for you to stay over his place once in a while and another thing to move all your stuff into his house. Having to share the same place can create friction between the two of you, since you might not like the way he does things. When you have your own place, you know that when you are together you are going to share great quality time. You know you both want to see each other and you both want to make the effort. When you move in with your guy, it is very easy to take the other person for grounded. It is also very easy to let yourself go, because part of the mystery dies as we choose to share the same space 24 hour a day. 

2. Men Love Challenges, Men Love Conquering...

I know for some women, living together with a man might mean having the guy just for them, having him committed to yourself and being exclusive to you. Well, I wish I could say that is the case. Unfortunately, in most cases, the truth is that they will get bored with having it given to them that easy. Men lose a lot of interest when things are being given to them without them having to work for it. They know how important is it to work hard for what they want, they know that in order to get to the top of the world, they need to deserve to be there. They know they need to constantly have to prove how valuable they really are. 

3. Your Sex Life Will Also Change

When you share the same place with your guy, in the first few years you both are going to be very excited with each other. You are going to have a lot of fun since everything between the two of you is new. With time, the chemistry you felt in the first place will start to dissipate. The reason why the chemistry can easily disappear, is because part of the mystery of not knowing everything about the other person is now all revealed.  The more comfortable he gets around you, the more attached he will become and the less appealing it will be for him to want to have sex with you. He will start seeing you in a different light. You will become more like a mother figure to him. He will start questioning his virility. He will want to get some external validation since at home everything is already being set. 

I am not saying this is what happen to all couples, If you are smart enough to create some distance while living with your partner, then you might survive and keep your relationship and the flame in the long term. 

Some people think that living together and having different schedules would create the distance they need from their partners. The truth is that the distance you actually need to create with your partner is something you need to do while sharing same space. Not when away doing your own things. How are you going to do it? I can help you out. I can show you the right tools that will help you keep the love and fire in your relationship. 

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Love. 

The Secret To Keep The " Chemistry " Alive.

In my own experience, with the men in my life, I have learned that chemistry comes in different packages. I have met some men with whom I had great chemistry with in the first few minutes, to find out later on that they were just narcissistic, with some others the chemistry wasn't that intense however they had a bigger impact on me. In the long run, I know that chemistry can also deteriorate in the relationship, if we don't treat it properly.

Chemistry as most of us have experienced in our lives, is something that takes us over when it happens between two people, we feel as if we're in nirvana. The effect that it produces in us, can be easily compared with that of cocaine. Chemistry creates addiction, where we long for the person who has created or activated the arousing feeling in us. We long for the high.

The curious thing about chemistry is that we either have it or we don't. It is not something we can fabricate. Most of the time, chemistry will happen when we are around someone who happens to smell a little bit like mommy or daddy. I know it sounds weird, but it really makes sense, since the first people we get in contact with in our first years of life is our caregivers. This is why chemistry is so important in the first few minutes of interaction. Men usually are better at picking up on energy than women are. For women, it can take us few days before we can actually know that the chemistry was there. Once the chemistry has been recognized, it something that keeps growing between the people involved - the next step is to make sure we don't damage it. You see, chemistry doesn't really last forever, the Universe gives us a free ride that last about three years. Then if we haven't worked out the communication part of the relationship, we will probably start finding faults in everything the other person does.

Keeping the chemistry alive it is matter of knowing what you are doing, it is knowing that if you consummate the relationship too fast, you will kill the process of growing together. Moving with your partner will also kill romance in the long term. If you are already living with your sweetheart, there are a few things you could do in order to keep the flame. For more information, private consultation are now available, email me at elenaburnettcoach@sbcglobal.net and remember even though people think that chemistry is all they need. I will need to insist on the communication part as an important ingredient for a long lasting relationship.

Love u.

Ps and Remember "Knowledge is Power "

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The 6 Secrets Men Keep Away From Women

Men in general are not so different from women, they also want to be loved and understood. However, society has always played a big role in how women and men are supposed to be or act.

From a young age, little boys get mixed messages. They are encouraged on one side to compete, to excel, to win and at the same time we want them to not show any type of aggression when around family members, work, or in public places. These young boys are rewarded when they are performing according to our standards and put down when they show any type of emotion. Emotions are then seen as a weakness of character, something that can't be shared with others. When these boys turn into men, we find out that many of them don't really know how to relate to their women. They either treat their woman as a mother figure or they directly ignore her needs completely.

To help a man to come out of his cave, he needs to feel safe.  However, even though many women complain about their man not being able to share his feelings, most women are not really ready for the truth. The truth is that you might not like him sharing and that his sincerity of heart might push you away.

So here are the major areas in which men keep secrets.

1. Their need for their father's love and admiration.
Men in general really need their father's validation so they can be free to love unconditionally.

2. Their desire for friendship and support from other men.
Men need male friends, someone to connect with and open up to when things gets rough, someone they can count on.

3. Their attachment to their jobs as their ultimate goal. 
Many men will lose themselves in their job; their jobs can easily became their identity.

4. Their real truth about their dependency on women. 
Most men have an unresolved attachment issue that started up with their mothers. This is something they will need to face in order to have a better relationship with their women in their life.

5. Their anger toward women.
Men can easily develop anger toward women for having to be responsible for them in exchange for sex and support. This is something they will keep hiding within themselves.

6. Men's denial of their right to feel uncertain, fearful or hurt.
When in pain men will show their feelings with madness and anger instead of talking directly about what is that they are feeling.

This information is based on research, studies and my own experiences from men with whom I have personally helped and discussed this.

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5 Ways in Which Men Express Love

Men have their own way of expressing love and sometimes it is kind of hard for women to read the signs because we are more used to their seductive words than we are looking at their actions.

Today I will share the 5 basic signs you will need to look for in your man, to determine whether or not he is showing you love.


Here is how he will approach love

1. He will tell you how much he cares about you. 
A man is more comfortable telling you how much he cares for you than he is saying "I love you". It is not that he won't say it, it is just that you will hear him more using this other approach.

2. He will want to help you out when in need. 
Men love to be needed, however you can't abuse his generosity by asking for too much help all at once. He will feel as if you are trying to take advantage of him or trying to control him. So be careful, just ask in little doses.

3. He will want you to be part of his everyday life. 
He will make sure to include you in his plans, he will want to show you to the world.

4. He will make time for the relationship.
His relationship with you will be a huge part of his life. He won't have excuses about how he needs to structure his time to see you. He will just show his love for you with his actions.

5. He will want to protect you. 
A man in love, is a man that will want to become your savior. He will want you to feel secure around him, he will want to give you anything you want, just to see you smile around him. He will bring the moon to your feet if needed. He will not let you go that easy.

A man in love, is a man that loses his rationality to became emotionally vulnerable to you. If he can't be vulnerable to your needs, you probably don't have his heart. You might just have his penis.


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