The 5 Things a Man Really Needs From His Woman.

I have been in a relationship for 13 years and in the process we have gone through a lot. I had to learn in the years together, what was important for my partner and how to be there for him in the way he needs. We had a lot of arguments but we always worked things out. There were many times I tried to leave him, thinking that maybe I could get a better guy or maybe he wasn't that special after all. I am  happy to say that he is still in my life, he is like a rock in the relationship, he gives me a lot of support and he can also be my worst enemy at times. I take the good and bad and I thank him for all he has taught me, for all he keeps teaching me with just his presence. Because of him and the many men I have worked very closed with in the past 20 years, I have come up with a short list of the 5 major things men in general really need from their women.

I hope you find them of interest and can apply them in your relationship to create a better team.

Here is what most men need from their women

1. They need you not to be a doormat.
Don't subordinate yourself to him just to make him happy, he will see your behavior as emotionally dependent on him to reciprocate back. He will feel pressure and will not open up to you.

2. They don't deal well with demands.
When a man hears a demand, he hears you being emotional and out of control. He just wants to run from you. You will only get the worst of him in those moments.

3. They will not accept your bossiness.
Men in general don't deal well with orders, they see it as if you are trying to take advantage of them or as if you are trying to break them down. It is definitely not the best approach if you want to keep him around.

4. They need some moments of privacy.
Men need a partner who can let them be moody when they need it, complain when they feel like it and have privacy when he wants it, without having their partner making it about themselves. A woman who can understand his emotional needs without seeing his struggle as a rejection of her, will have him eating out of her hands.

5. They want you to be mysterious and elusive.
A man will go the extra mile for a woman who is emotionally independent but also giving when needed. Men are intrigued by mysterious women, a woman who they don't really know everything about or they are not quite sure how will she react at times.


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7 Signs He's Just A Booty Call.

How many times have you thought you have finally found Prince Charming and how many other times have you realized he was just not that into you? In the many mistakes I have made in my dating life,  I can tell you one thing, most of them could have been avoided. The signs were always really visible but for whatever reason (I think I was so desperate to find love, so desperate to make it right, that I would fantasize about romance and make up things in my mind about the guy), I was going to later find out that he was just using me.

If you want to get some control of your emotions and allow yourself to see thing for what they are, here is seven signs that will help detect when he is just using you.

1. He makes plans with you at the last minute. 
I understand that being spontaneous can be a lot of fun, however it can create a lot of chaos. If he was really interested in seeing you he would have planned ahead with you.

2. He only wants to see you in private.
Forget about going out in public places, he is too busy to do that with you.

3. He calls you late at night to come over.
He will play the sweet drunk guy and call you late in the night to play his luck.

4. You will hear from him once in a while. 
He will call you or text you when it is convenient for him. He will call you when he is in the area passing by.

5. He will lie about a possible future.
To get you keep on giving yourself to him, he will promise you a thousand things but he won't deliver.

I personally have gone through all these 5 signs with some men in my past. It took me time to realize what the whole thing was all about and how little I loved myself. Today I can finally laugh about it.

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10 Reasons For Not Having An Affair With a Married Man

I had a dream last night with a beautiful stranger with whom I had a great connection. The truth is that it feels so real that for a moment I thought I was having an affair. It took me 30 minutes to realize what was going on!

This dream actually took me back to 6 years ago, to a time when I had an affair. I had a partner (the same one I have today), however I never thought it was an affair. The truth is that myself and the other man both had a life apart from each other - we both were in very serious long term relationships. 

This new person was younger than me, much younger. I won't give a lot of details about him for respect of his privacy. The affair didn't really last but the damage did and when he left I had to deal with the mess...
I don't regret any mistakes i have made in my past. Things happen for a reason. Today, I will think twice before putting myself in a situation like that again. It is just not worth it.

Because of my own experiences, studies and research, I decided to share with you 10 reasons I have found for NOT putting yourself in the same situation I did.

1. He will just move on.
An affair doesn't mean as much for a man at it does for a woman.

2. He will keep you a secret.
To protect himself from being caught, he will make sure not to have any proof of your existence.

3. He won't take you in public.
In case someone sees him.

4. He will make you feel like a princess.
Just to get laid.

5. He will brag about you as if you were a trophy.
To boost his self esteem and make him look good around his friends.

6. He will make no promises even though he did work hard to seduce you.
He will play the cool guy, as if nothing has really happen.

7. He will try to buy you, in order to keep you quiet. 
You might hear a phrases like "Is there anything i can do for you?". Really??? After having played with my feelings, that is all you can do. That is a good one.

8. He will tell you all the things you want to hear.
He will talk a lot about feelings however his actions will not follow.

9. He will go back to his partner as if nothing happen.
You will be just a flame for him. Nothing more.

10. He will never contact you again.
Only if he is in town and he has nothing more to do.

If you are still thinking about having an affair after reading my 10 reasons for not doing it,  think twice - it is not worth it. What you have with your partner, this new person will never be able to offer you. The new person, is just that... new, unknown, exciting. Sooner of later the flame will dissipate in him.  Don't waste your time, don't put your heart in a situation that is not going anywhere. Don't let him seduce you to get his needs meet.


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10 Deadly Dating Mistakes

I have been single on many occasions and I have tried to approach the dating arena in many different ways. With some men, it was ok to be the assertive one and with others there was no question about it, he was in the lead.

Men come in many different packages but it is important to know, as a woman, the way in which you would like to mate. Are you looking for a masculine leading man or are you more interested in a passive, creative and easy going man?  Both types of men are acceptable, as long as you are aware of the type of men you are attracting and why (I will talk more about this subject in another blog). Whether you choose to do all the work and go after the guy of your dreams or you just sit back and let him come your way, here are 10 things you must avoid when going out with men in general.

1. Don't Tell Him What Restaurant or Place To Go. 
Let him do the work and just follow his direction.

2. Don't Boss The Servers Around.
Let him know what you need and let him take care of you.

3. Don't Compete with Him When He Is Advertising.
Let him brag about his accomplishments. He is not interested in how smart you are, yet.

4. Don't Start Sharing Yourself By Being Critical About Other People.
If you are going to share yourself, do it in a constructive way, otherwise you will turn him off.

5. Don't Talk about Exes or Other Men.
Some women love to brag about exes or guys to make themselves sound popular, to make themselves be seen as very desirable. Big mistake.

6. Don't Brag About How Much Money You Make or How Important Your Position Is.
If you sound too independent and self sufficient he will not see you as a feminine woman who can be vulnerable around him.

7. Don't Ask Him Too Many Questions.
Let him be the interviewer.

8. Don't Reach Out To Pay Half Of The Bill.
He is the one taking you out, let him do his work.

9. Don't Ask Him When You Will See Him Again.
You have just met him, if he doesn't call you back, move on.

10. Don't Feel Like You Owe Him Something, Because He Took You Out.
A simple "Thanks" will do.

I have made most of these mistakes with some of my dates in the past. Now I understand I was coming on too strong. It is easy to be judged by others, especially if we don't know the other person so well, that is why we need to try our best not to give the wrong impression when meeting someone new. We won't have another chance.

Reread these 10 mistakes and think for a moment if it is possible that you might be doing some of them. Think how important or how much you care to see this new person and whether or not you are willing to do your 50% correctly. If that is the case, memorize these easy steps and you will get better results in your dating life.

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10 Most Important Things Men Love About Women

 What is it that men really love about women? Here is one of my many approaches to that question.

On many occasions, when I am in need of some inspiration for my writing, I usually go to a cafe and just observe how people interact with each other, especially couples. Today I spotted a young couple who were sitting across from my table. It was really interesting to observe how they were flirting. Obviously it was clear they didn't know each other very well,  they were probably on one of their few first encounters. You could easily tell by the way the guy was moving his body and how talkative and energetic he was, that they didn't know each other so well. He didn't stop advertising himself and she was constantly touching her hair and posing. It was a beautiful dance to watch.  However, without even knowing it, they gave me the idea to write about what it is that men love about women.

Since my blogs are for women about men, here is the 10 most important things men love about women.

1. Looks.

You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful however men appreciate when you are nicely put together. 

2. Femininity.

A woman that is comfortable in her skin and radiates sex appeal.

3. Confidence.

You like who you are.

4. Happiness. 

There is light coming out of you. 

5 Vulnerability.

She is in touch with her feelings.

6. Passion for Life.

She wants to do something with her life. 

7. Receptiveness.

She is lovable. 

8. Personality.

The part in you that is unique.

9.  A Good Listener.

They more you listen without giving your opinion the more he will open up.

10. Mysterious.

The less you talk about you, the more interesting you become and appealing to his eyes. 

Men in general want a woman that can be vulnerable with him. A woman that can be receptive to his love, a woman that can support him when the road gets rough. A woman that will believe in him and his judgement without losing her identity. If he can find in you the attributes that will melt his heart, you might get the chance to have a great long term relationship or a great boyfriend.

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10 Solutions To Stop Fights In The Relationship

The way in which men and women deal with conflict is very different from one another.  For a man, getting mad is one thing, but whether or not he is able to control himself is quite a different thing.

When men are presented with a conflictive situation, they have pretty much two reactions. They either fight or they pull back. Just because he has chosen to pull back doesn't necessarily mean he is giving up.  For the most part he is just avoiding becoming physically violent with you. This is something that not all men have the capacity to control, as I have mentioned before.

Take for instance Rihanna's case with her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown.  They got into a fight and the next thing that happened, as we all know, is that she was physically abused. Could she have prevented the situation from escalating? It all depends on the type of man a woman is dating.  I came from a verbally and physically abusive family.  Therefore, I understand that some people just cannot control themselves.  However, there is hope; all you really need to do is bring some awareness to what is acceptable and not acceptable when dealing with conflicts in a relationship.

The 10 Solutions to Stop Fights

1. Let Him Be Right When He Is Wrong.

I know you are smarter than he is, however let him win when he becomes “funny.”

2. Don’t Physically Challenge Him.

Don't make the first move to touch him, don't even try it as a joke.

3. Don't Make Childish Comments.

Again, watch your mouth. 

4. Don't Force Him to Give You an Answer.

If he says "I have nothing to say," he means it.

5. Don't Follow Him Around The House with Nagging Demands.

This is not the moment to show him drama. Give Him 30 minutes to calm down.

6. Don't Act Like a Crazy Jealous Possessive Girlfriend.

Don't go through his things to find some "evidence." If he finds out, you will be in trouble.

7. Don't Manipulate Him with Fear or Guilt.

Don’t say things like "I am going to leave you," or "You don't love me."

8. Don't Accuse Him of Sleeping Around.

If you touch that bottom, he will end up cheating on you.

9. Don't Call Your Friends to Talk Bad About Him.

You will get the worse of him.

10. Don't Play the Martyr.

Be mature and take responsibility for your 50% and let him do his part.

Puff, I think I have done some of these mistakes myself in the past. That's why I know how easily a normal conversation can degenerate into something else. Especially because we don't really know how differently men will react to the same approach.

If you think you might not be able to control yourself, then express your anger to a friend, let her hear your pain or if you don't have someone that close, write a letter. "Pain Letters" can be very therapeutic at times. The choice is yours. Make the right one.

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Decode the 10 Things Men Try to Hide.

Men have their own way to express or let us know what they want and they usually do it in a very subtle way.  

It is very important for women to be able to decode what is going on behind their words. What is it they really mean?

Here are 10 things you might hear from men and the real truth behind it. 

1.  I like you a lot however I am not really looking for a relationship at the moment. 
The message is "let's just have fun cuz I don't want to deal with your drama."

2.  I am married however it is not working and I am planning to divorce.
The message is  "I am not available but I am going to make you think that I may be soon, so I can get laid now. "

3.   What a great friend you are.
If he says that, he is not interested in you. He doesn't find you attractive enough. 

4.  The economy is tough this days.
"I don't have a job and I don't have any intention to look for one either." 

5.  I haven't had a serious girlfriend for the last 5 years.
He loves to be single and has no intention to settle down. 

6.  I love tall women.
He is probably 5' 7'' and has a napoleon complex. 

7.  I care about  you.
If a man says that, he means "I loves you."

8. I need space.
Stop being on his back, he is getting tired of you.

9. Can we still be friends?
"Can I still have sex with you?"

10. I didn't call lately because I have been very busy with work this days.
He was probably very busy seducing someone else beside you. 

Remember one thing, if a man is really interested in you, he will find time for you. Any excuse you might hear from him is just a way to create some distance between the two of you.  Ask yourself whether you have contributed to his aloofness and how can you take your power back.  Men love women that are self-centered, a woman that loves herself more than she will love him. He knows if she loves herself enough he will be seen in her eyes as an important part of her life instead of him becoming her everything. This is a tough lesson for most women. I have gone though this experience with the men in my life and it hasn't been an easy one to learn.  Come on girls we can do it...

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