Advice on Relationships- The Wrong Man/Woman

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I Am Married and I Think I've Married The Wrong Guy.  What Should I Do?

- We date for 10 months.

- We have been together 2 years.

If your partner its the " wrong guy ". Why are you still married to him?

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest, 

There are a couple of things about your situation that needs to be taken into consideration. 

1. Your idea of wrong guy.

2. Getting married after only 10 months.

First, I will like to understand what is it that we personally like to call right or wrong in people and situations. We already know that everybody has their own list of attributes and ideas about how things should or shouldn't be done. And this idea is based on people's perceptions and expectations.

However, what I personally have learned from my never ending consultations about relationships and dating issues, it's the fact that most people live in their own fairy tale idea of romance where everything MUST look perfect and beautiful at all time. And yes that happen a lot, in some cases the fantasy of perfect love only last three months and some other times goes on for about 18 months ( if you are lucky enough).

1. The Reason Why Expectations Kills Romance

This whole idea of Princess charm and Princess perfect belong to the goddess and gods in beautiful mythology. In real life when we fail in love we are " Projecting " our ideal of perfection into an imperfect human being. This approach will get us in trouble in the long run. Why? Because you are not looking at the person for whom he or she is. You are creating a fantasy and expecting for a human being to fulfill your fairy tale. 

2. A Solid Relationship Takes Time to Develop

A real relationship takes time to develop if that's what you really want to have. However, if you decide to get under the cover with your new Adonis and you invite him to your warm body before you get to know them first. In that means, you need to find out about their dark side, the part they are trying to hide in order to be accepted first since that's the part you will be dealing in a daily base. 


If you get yourself all excited about the moment you won't be able to see them for their real color. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you are consciously aware of where you are putting yourself. Unfortunately, most people won't be realistic about what is happening while it's happening and then the pain will get into the picture. Pain for when you see them for how they are instead of who you will want them to be. That's a tough lesson to learn, the reality that he or she its just another human being like you.

If you can accept their dark side such as their mood, shortcoming, bad temper, etc. and you do it in a conscious way, then you might get to develop a true relationship with an imperfect person. It takes a sociopath a year and a half to show its true colors so if you are willing to take a risk its with you. In most cases, I will recommend you to wait before " promising " eternal love to someone you have been going out for only 10 months. The price tag to pay its too high... to pay.

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About My Dating ebooks

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationship and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phone devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.

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