10 Secrets To Make Him Happy.

Hello Everybody and welcome back to my blog.

This blog is for women about men. It is made to help women understand the heart and mind of  different types of men. This is not a blog to put men or women down. It is informative and it is based on my years of study, knowledge , research, experience, education and MEN.

If you are a woman and will like to keep your guy around. Here is the 10 Secrets men have share with me. If you follow them,  you will show him, the respect he needs from you as a man. I hope you can find this information valuable.

1.Validate him for what he does.
2.Tell him how proud you are of him.
3. Give him complements about his work, about his looks and about him.
4. Listen when he talks, stop your multitasking in these moments.
5. Trust his judgment.
6. Make him feel wanted.
7. Brag about him when in public.He will feel like a King.
8 .Ask his opinion about your thoughts, men love to help us women.
9. Support him, he needs you there so he can take on the world.
10. Give him a lot of sex, his self confidence will thank you.  

I can guaranty you that if you follow this steps, he will be eating at your hand and If he doesn't at least you know you did your 50 % correctly. You will be still young and beautiful to find a better man then.


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Why Your Relationship iIs Not Working?

What is wrong with you? 

Why don't relationships end up as we had expected them to?  What is the secret behind a good relationship? How do people stay married without hating each other?

How many times have you questioned whether or not you were doing the right thing, whether or not you were with the right person, whether or not all your needs are being meet in your relationship?  And even if you have asked these questions, then why is the relationship still not working for you? 

Most of us at some point have experienced the wonderful feeling of meeting someone special, when everything around us looks better and everything seems magical...until the day we wake up from our dream. The person we thought he or she was, now seems different. The things we used to like about
him/her now aggravates us. What the @&%$# happened? 

First I would like to let you know that it is possible to keep the mystery, the desire and the love for your partner. The question is how!  It's all possible... if you are willing to make the effort. 

Here are a couple of things to keep in mind about why relationships don't work in general. 

Let's start from the beginning, when your first met and fell in love with each other. What is it about a person we hardly know (in the early stages) that gives us butterflies in our stomach?  Keep in mind that not knowing everything about this new person is what make us wanting more. 

One of the secrets of having a healthy, long-term relationship is based on " keeping some distance" ! You need some distance between the two of you in order to want to be close. This is the only way we can really appreciate the other person's company.

You also need to find ways to release your stress without expecting your partner to be the only source of support. I know this one can be a little hard.  However, try to find something you would like to do on your own. Remember there has to be an 'I' in order to be an 'Us' . 

Expectations also kill romance.  If your relationship is working, let it be.  You only need to adjust and correct changes as you both grow in the relationship. If you are still unhappy ask yourself what it is that you have that you don't want, and what is it you want that you don't have. Please don't ruminate.  Choose whether you want to accept a situation or not. Then let it go.

Don't do business with your partner; equality doesn't work in romance. He will see you as another competitor. If you still need to talk about business with him, set a time specifically for that.  When it's done go back to being feminine. Asking men for help can be appealing to them but only in little doses. 

If you are facing trouble in the relationship, don't wait until it's too late to be fixed.  Confront your partner in a healthy way but don't pretend the problem doesn't exist. That will only escalate any issues. Communication is love and without it there can be no love. 

Don't forget to take care of yourself and keep up your attractiveness.  Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean the work is already done.  Your looks are a sign of whether you are taking care of your inner self or not. Don't lose it! You are the only thing that is guaranteed to stay with you to the end of your days. 

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When Women Gives Sex Too Easily

The question is,

What do you want? Do you want just sex or do you want to make love and have sex?

Having sex and making love is two different things, which we will talk more about shortly. 

Going back to the question in the title, whether it is ok for women to have sex on the first date... 

You can have a great connection with someone and the best chemistry ever and decide at the same time to consummate the relationship by mutual agreement. To be honest with you, that is perfectly fine with me, if it is ok with you. Some people are still married after a one night stand.  I am not a moralist.  

However, here is something for you to think about. Usually when we meet someone with whom we have a great connection, there is always a lot of sexual friction. They both are feeling high, they both are anxious with each other's company and they both know they can easily lose control in each others arms. In other words, they want to be in control so they don't have to deal with the pain of losing themselves in the process of not knowing what is next. They haven't been taught how to delay gratification, they haven't been taught that in order to appreciate something they need to work for it. They need to want it so badly that they are willing to be patient for the right moment to appear. 

For some people there is no point in waiting when they can have it all now. 

Why would they? What is the point in that?  

Well if they could only wait for the right moment to get to experience each other without being physical, they will not only know if they are a good match for the long run but they might get the chance to be able to make love and also have sex.

They will not just penetrate each others' bodies, they will also penetrate each others hearts. Which is the ultimate goal for everyone. You will be able to melt with your lover. 

Have you ever experienced what I am talking about? 

'Cause I did. And It was magic. Nothing can compare with it. It was like being in Nirvana...

According to Pat Allen Ph D, people who have sex don't make love, people who choose to make love can also have sex. So make up your mind.

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Why Men Don't Need To Talk?

We all know how much we women need to talk, but what is the reason for this? Why we must talk non stop? 

Well, what if I told you that's the only way we can release stress? When we talk and you guys take the time to listen without fixing us, we feel loved and understood. So what is the secret for men to be able to listen without feeling frustrated? I know guys, women can be irritated at times but if you do it right, you might get more SEX.

Here are a few steps for you guys to follow when she starts talking to you:

a) Let her know in advance the amount of time you are willing to listen. Be specific. Otherwise we will keep going.

b) Don't fix her problems in the moment, let her talk. When a women has the chance to share her feelings she feel connecting with her man.

c) Ask her questions about the situation she is sharing with you. This can be hard for you guys since you are built to solve problems. Well, here is a great opportunity for you to cherish your woman.

d) And lastly... Reflect back to her whatever she my be expressing. Only then she will feel understood.
I promise you guys, if you train yourself to know how to listen to your woman, she will be more vulnerable to your needs too.

Ok, so now we have figured out how men can improve their listening skills with women. What about men not wanting to share their thoughts and feelings with women? What can we women do about it?

I first need to let you know women, that men actually talk more than women do.
I know you don't believe me but they do! What do you think they do at work? They TALK. Why? Because they are competing, they are constantly being judged and they know they need to appear to be the best. So the question is, what do they do when they finish work? Just go to any park around your house and you will see where men are. They are releasing their stress from work, and here's how:
- Jogging
- Walking
- Playing soccer, basketball, etc
- Playing with their dogs
- Just being in nature

They know the only way to feel better is if they do something about it. We call it "getting into action" and that is exactly how they release their stress.

So women, releasing stress for us is the equivalent as talking non stop, so what do you need to do?

You got it! Call your female friends, take the time to feel better about yourself. Don't expect your guy to be your savior, don't put that pressure on him. He will thank you for it. 

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