Advice on Relationships - Loving Him

“Can I love him without getting hurt or without losing myself?” Here is a situation we are all very familiar with, so lets first understand what love really is or it is suppose to be. 

What girl hasnʼt been exposed to this quintessential quandary at least once and most likely repeatedly throughout her adult life? You finally meet that someone special then start to feel your own sense of self slip away to the same degree to which you fall in love with him. Isnʼt there something we can do so we donʼt get hurt when our hearts get all fluttery, when someone comes alone and makes us feel special, when his mere presence turns our world upside down? Do we have any control over what we are feeling? Or should we simply ignore this feeling and let ourselves get swept up in the waves of his passion?

The unfortunate answer, ladies, is that there is no easy way around this. Losing yourself is a distinct possibility and getting hurt more so, however it doesnʼt have to be that way. If you have the emotional fortitude and mental resilience to work on yourself and look into the true nature of things, youʼll notice that nobody has the power to hurt you. No one can force you to leave your center (something you have to do in order to lose yourself), so donʼt do it! Of course this is the ideal, something Zen masters train for years to attain. For us mere mortals, we will experience pain whether we have a one night stand or spend fifty years with someone. So what exactly is this pain?

The type of pain and loss of self we are referring to comes from the pattern of the never-ending desire to bask in the presence of the other person. We long for them when we are with them and we long for them when we are apart! We long for the sensations and feelings this new person has awakened in us and we long for getting more out of them. In fact an addiction is what forms, and hence the pain follows. This most commonly occurs in the courtship stages and beginning of intimacy stages, however it is by no means limited to that. This pain can arise at any stage of a relationship, simply depending on the energy between the two individuals.

So I ask you: Are you willing to take a risk on another human being in the name of love? Or better yet I challenge you: Take the risk! You will at times be disappointed and frustrated by their quirks and idiosyncrasies and at other times enamored and awestruck by their beauty and compassion. And then youʼll learn heʼs just a mirror of yourself. You both must be willing to do your part at self improvement. He must be equally committed to taking a risk on you and letting his guard down enough to do so. If you have this kind of guy already, heʼs a keeper. And if not, stay pure of heart and positive of intention but donʼt cast your pearls before the swine. Wait till the right one comes along to take the risk.

If youʼre currently with a guy who youʼre not too sure about, donʼt make the mistake of thinking that maybe youʼll get him to change in the future when he fully realizes how wonderful you are. Be realistic, remember that pain in romance has never been avoided, and cut your losses at the earliest possible moment. Love brings wonderful feelings but does not come free of charge and the price tag is usually paid in pain. Love has the power to make us touch the moon and fall straight back down to the ground all at the same time. In short, romantic love is painfully beautiful.

I have gone through this process so many times and on some occasions I could have avoided the drama since the other person wasnʼt willing to take a risk on me (as I was willing to take on him). In other cases, we both took a risk on each other and gave it a sincere effort. And on certain other instances, no matter how I tried to handle it, I just couldnʼt get the simultaneous beautiful feeling/awful pain out of my chest. My whole body would shake just by being in his presence. I was literally out of control and thatʼs exactly what love does to us: Love makes us lose our mind; love makes us change; love makes us want to leave everything behind for that special person.

So, relax and take a deep breath and remember one thing: love is all that matters. There is nothing more marvelous than failing in love together. It is an experience you mustnʼt let pass you by. Let your heart take charge of what your logical mind canʼt possible control. Fall into the virtues of love.

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The Secret Behind Your Name, Your Birthday, Your Personality

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Why Sex and Success It's So Important For Men?

So here is a subject kind of interesting don't you think?  What is it about success and sex that drive men crazy? Why do they all love success and obviously sex? Well, here is a couple of things to remember, men are made for competition, men are made to conquer and control everything around them. That is how it work with most of them.

So success mean few things for a man, first it shows that he has own his position which mean he deserves it.  He has own the respect and validation he needs it, remember that for a man his job it's very important because that is the place where they get most of their strokes and believe me, they need it as much as we women need their attention.  It is at work where they get validated for their accomplishments, validated for their capacity to deliberate and of course for making things happen.

Another important thing to remember is the fact that for a man their job, their career, their success gives them a sense of identity. Their jobs is their " purpose " in life, what make them keep improving, what make them want to keep escalating to the top. The higher they get in their position at work the more their confidence get to be boosted. Also with success comes many other "free gifts' , many others rewards. For instant, the higher a man's position gets to be at work the easier would be for him to access a bigger number and variety of beautiful ladies.  He would have the chance to be rewarded with many of these lovely women's body.  The higher the numbers of ladies he could get to seduce the more his ego gets to be inflamed.  Some men can easily take all this attention and power to the extreme where they get to fool themselves to the point of thinking that all of the greatness they are attracting to their life it is because they have own it. And yes , they did, however, there is a price tag to pay for. You might have work your way out to the top  and that  definitely has my respect, however, you might get a lot of things for free just because you have the cash or the looks. If you don't have the look you would have to show your money to get the ladies to stick around. When the money is gone , you might be surprised of those who would actually stay by your side.

So success and sex are two things  most men dream of having because of the freedom they would get, because of the power and respect they will get for those around him. He would feel the king of the jungle, he would feel confidence about himself and his possibilities. One thing really important for women to understand about their man in their life, is the fact that not matter in which position he happens to be at work, he needs your validation, he needs to know that you are proud of him and all the things he does for you , whatever this might be.  Don't ever underestimated your man. Give him the validation he needs, make him feel the king of your world. He would thank you for that.  Remember , most of his success in the business world depends on his success at home. So do your part.

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The 10 Things To Do When He Doesn't Want Sex From The Start.

How many times have you dated a guy who avoids being intimate with you?  Usually, most guys will try to have sex with you on the first few encounters, with some exceptions. I want to be clear that there is not a problem on the man's side to want it to have sex with you as fast as possible. It is a woman's responsibility to shift his awareness from his basic instinctual desire to his spiritual level. However, I will talk more about this subject in another blog since this one is about the guys who don't want to be physical with you.

Why is this happening? The other day I had a great conversation with an smart middle aged woman who happened to bring this subject to my attention. She told me how unlucky she was, because all she ever attracted were guys who didn't want to have sex with her. She didn't know what to do or why this was happening to her.  The first thing for me to bring into her awareness was the concept she had about attracting someone versus keeping someone. I explained to her that women, when in touch with their femininity (meaning when they are receptive, vulnerable and available) are going to attract men in general.

When this happens you will probably have a variety of men who will be knocking on your door, and if you love yourself and know who you are, you will be able to either 'qualify the buyer' ('future mate) according to your standards or be able to say " No Thank You". You won't waste your precious youth with someone who is incapable of fulfilling your needs first. This type of women is what I like to call a "Self Centered Woman", and that's a good thing!

Women, if you meet a guy who doesn't want to be all over you in the first days and weeks, don't stick around. He is probably looking for a companion which is great, however women need a combination of companionship and great sex / making love.

Why then is this situation happening to you? If you tell me it's only happened to you once or twice, I will understand and we can both move on. However, if this has happened more then twice, we are talking about a pattern. A pattern that keeps repeating itself because you are not clear on what you want or don't want when it comes to romance. It also tells me you have some inner work to do on yourself first in order to attract your equal.

Here are the changes you will need to make,

1. Break The Pattern.

Learn to say "No Thank You" to what you don't want.

2. Make a List Of The Things You Want or Don't Want in a Man.

If you know what you are looking for write it down, If you don't know, then make a list of the things you don't want.

3. Build You Confidence Back.

Learn to believe in yourself and your inner power.

4. Pray.

Learn to ask the Universe for its guidance and help in the process. Surrender to its power.

5. Listen to Your Dates With Your Ears Not You Heart.

Pay attention to what he says to you about himself and his past versus what you want to hear.

6. Does it Feel Right To Be Around Him?

Stop going out with him if it doesn't.  Be responsible for your part.

7. Don't Convince Yourself Of Something that Isn't There.

You know in your heart when something is not right; don't let your mind plays trick on you.

8. Don't Stick Around Because You Feel Sorry For Him.

That's one of the worst things you could do to a man and to yourself.

9. Always Think About You First.

Remember this is your life and you have the power to co-create exactly as you wish.

10. Don't Chase Him To Get Laid.

Let the man do his job.  If he doesn't, you already know what you need to do. If you chase him around, you will turn him off and he will feel pressure to perform. Not the best approach.

Remember the sperm chases the egg, not the other way around.

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4 Ways In Which To Deal With Your Guy's Short Coming?

When we talk about men and women in relationships we are talking about energy, both having feminine and masculine aspects within themselves. In every relationship then, there are four distinct sides interacting.  Some men are more comfortable in their creative, feeling side and others, more comfortable in their logical, rational side.  No matter which energy you happen to gravitate towards, they are both acceptable as long as you are clear in which you is doing the mating. These energies are not based in gender or sexual proclivity.  Just because a man is more comfortable being in his passive, feminine side doesn't make him gay.

You can also find men who fluctuate back and forth between being very creative and very logical.   This group is called the "Alpha ". They think and feel at the same time. Any of these three type of men I have mentioned above are all perfectly fine and acceptable. The point is that you as a woman will need to know what type of man it is that you are dealing with. The more your energy compliments your partner's, the better chance you have to avoid unnecessary conflict.

In the States for example, we can easily find more "Beta" men than we will find in countries as Spain, Italy or Greece where men are born more alpha.

Let me go one step back and explain what an alpha or beta person is. An alpha man is a man who will feel and think as he wishes. He will play both roles depending on the situation.
A beta man is a man who will either be only in his feeling mind or be only logical mind. He is just one track and lacks the ability to freely go back and forth. We find this type of men in the Anglo-Saxon culture.

The men I am going to talk about today are the men who are overly masculine in their energy. However, I want to make clear that being in your masculine side doesn't make you more of a man. It can actually making you more rigid, stubborn and hard to deal with. When a man is not really balanced within his two energies, meaning the feminine and masculine aspect of his essence, he can be very short in his approach. If you are dating or are in a relationship with this type of men, you will need to know a couple of things about him so you can better deal with his personality.

The 4 Signs To Look For.

a) He Just Wants To Be Right,
A man in his masculine energy will not accept your comments or suggestions. He just wants you to be passive and listen to him. Let him get his point across and then move on. If you don't move on, he will keep escalating.

b) Understand and Validate His Frustration,
If you can just agree with what he is feeling, he will probably let it go and move on.

c) He Becomes To Difficult To Talk To,

Leave him alone to deal with his moods. Don't engage, just go for a 30 minute walk. That will do.

d) Don't Take It Personal,
If he is not being disrespectful with you, don't take on his problems and make them yours.

You don't need to be a doormat when he becomes competitive nor do you need to match his level of competition.  All you need to do is to let him come down on his own.  If you choose to face him, you will feed him and he will have the perfect excuse to keep going on. Understand that at the moment he becomes difficult he is not in his mind.  Rather he is just feeling his feeling, then reacting and then thinking instead of feeling his feeling, then thinking what he wants or doesn't want and then responding.

If he has a 51% worth to you even on a bad day, keep him. Love doesn't come easy. Think if you can accept his behavior today or if you would rather reject it. However, don't tolerate.  Don't go back and forth between accepting and rejecting him.  Make up your mind.  If you ruminate on your decision you will release cortisol in your system and damage yourself.

These 4 steps are easy to follow and are just some of the things you can do to avoid confronting your partner. If you want to learn how to express yourself in a non-threatening way and coming to terms with what you are willing to accept or reject about his behavior, I can show you the way.

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