Advice on Relationships - Would He Ask You Out?

Hot Topics Presents,

Question,

Will Me and My Crush Date Any Time Soon?

- I've met him at a coffee.
- We have been friends for a year now.
- He is dating another girl for 3 months.

Lets Look At It?

He is Single But He is Not Asking You Out.

Rule no 1. 

No action its equal an action

If you've met a guy who has been single for the time together and he hasn't made a move on you. We have a situation here. If all he wants its your friendship, he is either very mature (which is rare) or he is not that into you. Most men do find it hard to be friend with the opposite sex if they are attractive to you. It can be a challenge for them not to think about sex or not wanting to project their "love fantasies" into you and as a matter of fact this type of approach don't end up working. Why? Because in order to truly love someone that person must see for who you really are. Otherwise his fantasy will fade way and you too on the long run.

Rule no 2
When He flirts Back.
Pay attention for the obvious signs.

If he on the other hand was actually flirting with you BUT you didn't respond to his approach, he might have resolved to give up on you. Note that if a man its really interesting to you he will stick around. I will also want to explain that being receptive to a man approach doesn't mean giving them sex back, it just means being present with him, vulnerable and kind, please refrain from going extra mile. ( more about this subject in another blog).

It is true that most men are afraid of rejection but and smart man who really wants to invest in you won't risk coming too fast to quick for you because he is not looking for a short ride. Please lovely ladies and sensitive men do not full yourself thinking that just because he is being very persistence in the beginning that he wants a relationship with you. The sooner he gets in, the sooner he will be out or he might come around for the wrong reasons. It is up to YOU!!!

What's The Solution Then?

So the solution to this dilemma. Hummm... Well I can help you out to turn this situation outside down with my tools, tips and solutions. However, you MUST be ready for my approach and yes... the pain you are feeling from " falling in love" won't go away for now BUT at least I will make sure you don't keep losing your integrity and you don't repeat the same old song next time around. So are you ready!!! So please visit me at ...

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My Relatioshiphttp Tips

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationships and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle or barnes & nobles under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be also available on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with great info you can't miss.

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Advice on Relationships - In Love with 2 People.

Questions About Relatioships,

The Dilemma of Loving Two People.

I am confused, I have been in a relationship for almost 8 years, however, someone from the past came into the picture. He has been calling me for the past five months and now I don't know what to do. Can You help me?

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest,

First it is totally normal to feel confused since you have two guys from which to choose.  The fact that you have split your attention from your honey to another person it's going to create a lot of chaos.

To start with I will like to ask you a simple question, Why did your ex become an ex and since when? . and whether or not he was being the one to take off. This will help you see some of his old patterns and maybe help you make a better decisions about what to do next


The Long Term Relationship Dilemma.

I do know being in a relationship with someone for a long time could easily take some of the excitement a new lover or ex boyfriend might bring to you, so it is always easier to let ourselves been seduced by new promises. I do understand you might have a great connection with your ex but you need to take everything into consideration before letting things escalate to fast too quick. .

I do recommend keeping any unfinished business with exes out of the equation if you already have a good guy at home. Do you think it is really worth the risk ? Are you willing to leave your current relationship to this other person? If your situation with your guy its not working of haven't been working for a long time then take some time for yourself BUT don't jump from A to B. You might end up losing both.


Should I Let My Ex Go?

If you really value your current relationship you can perfectly explain to your ex what your situation at home looks like. If you are clear with him that you are going to honor your relationship and he sees you being serious and really commit to your guy. He will understand you and walk out of your life, however, if he does sees a tinny opportunity that you might let him in, that you might invite him to seduce you. he will definitely take the chance. You have complete control on how to play your cards so be smart.

How To Deal With Your Confusion

Confusion does happen when we welcome them, when we don't set healthy boundaries in our life for what's acceptable or not for our own health. Let me remind you that it is you and only you who can determinate how far you want to go in any situation. The rest its a price tag you are going to pay in the long term. So get to set healthy boundaries so you can better protect yourself.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries Around You?

If you want to find out how to set healthy boundaries in your life, please don't hesitate to contact me for a private consultation about your relationship and dating situation. I will be more than happy to help you. I do provide the best tips, tools and solutions to navigate the dating and relationship arena. And remember... My Approach Work


About My Consultations

For more information about my work, private consultation or for a tarot reading with me, please check my website page under http://www.elenaburnett.com/services. You will find tons of great valuable information about dating and relating, so hurry up!!!.

About My dating  ebooks

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationships and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phone devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.

http://www.elenaburnett.com/

Advice on Relationships- The Wrong Man/Woman

Questions About Relationships,

Hot Topics -

I Am Married and I Think I've Married The Wrong Guy.  What Should I Do?

- We date for 10 months.

- We have been together 2 years.

If your partner its the " wrong guy ". Why are you still married to him?

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest, 

There are a couple of things about your situation that needs to be taken into consideration. 

1. Your idea of wrong guy.

2. Getting married after only 10 months.

First, I will like to understand what is it that we personally like to call right or wrong in people and situations. We already know that everybody has their own list of attributes and ideas about how things should or shouldn't be done. And this idea is based on people's perceptions and expectations.

However, what I personally have learned from my never ending consultations about relationships and dating issues, it's the fact that most people live in their own fairy tale idea of romance where everything MUST look perfect and beautiful at all time. And yes that happen a lot, in some cases the fantasy of perfect love only last three months and some other times goes on for about 18 months ( if you are lucky enough).

1. The Reason Why Expectations Kills Romance

This whole idea of Princess charm and Princess perfect belong to the goddess and gods in beautiful mythology. In real life when we fail in love we are " Projecting " our ideal of perfection into an imperfect human being. This approach will get us in trouble in the long run. Why? Because you are not looking at the person for whom he or she is. You are creating a fantasy and expecting for a human being to fulfill your fairy tale. 

2. A Solid Relationship Takes Time to Develop

A real relationship takes time to develop if that's what you really want to have. However, if you decide to get under the cover with your new Adonis and you invite him to your warm body before you get to know them first. In that means, you need to find out about their dark side, the part they are trying to hide in order to be accepted first since that's the part you will be dealing in a daily base. 


If you get yourself all excited about the moment you won't be able to see them for their real color. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you are consciously aware of where you are putting yourself. Unfortunately, most people won't be realistic about what is happening while it's happening and then the pain will get into the picture. Pain for when you see them for how they are instead of who you will want them to be. That's a tough lesson to learn, the reality that he or she its just another human being like you.

If you can accept their dark side such as their mood, shortcoming, bad temper, etc. and you do it in a conscious way, then you might get to develop a true relationship with an imperfect person. It takes a sociopath a year and a half to show its true colors so if you are willing to take a risk its with you. In most cases, I will recommend you to wait before " promising " eternal love to someone you have been going out for only 10 months. The price tag to pay its too high... to pay.

About My Consultations

For more information about my work, private consultation or for a tarot reading with me, please check my website service page under http://www.elenaburnett.com/services. You will find tons of great valuable information about dating and relating, so hurry up!!!.

About My Dating ebooks

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationship and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phone devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.

http://www.elenaburnett.com/

Advice on Relationships- Rejections.

Romance Tips -

How To Deal With Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back?

QUESTION
I love him but he seems not. 

First there are a couple of things we need to look at. 

- How to deal with rejections in a mature way?
- How to deal with the lack or reciprocity?

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest, (this romantic tips)

First, when someone says to me, " I love him/her " My question to you its - 

Are you talking about someone you just met recently or its this a person you know for a long time? What's the relationship between the two of you?


- Real friends
- Friends with benefits
- Someone new.

If you have been friends for a long time and he/she doesn't respond to you the way you want it. They might not be interested in you or they might have somebody else already. 

If you have met them recently and you tell me - I am in love or I love him. Then We are talking about a projection, this person's DNA has triggered something in you and you feel a connection BUT that doesn't necessarily means you are in love. You might think you are. In your head he or she has turned into a God or Goddess. However, that's not real love. This type of love will fall away with the same intensity as you have created in your head.


So What Could You Do If You Feel Trap Under Love Spell?

1. Get to know the person first for who they really are.
2. Don't take their rejection personal, understand that he or she has the right to walk away. It's their choice not yours.
3. Let them go, if it is truth you love them you already have enough love in your heart to let them go, that's what real love its all about when you stop your controlling way to get what you want at all cost. Even if that means the other person DOESN'T WANT YOU that much.


How To Deal With Rejections?
How to Deal With The Lack or Reciprocite?

Being rejected or feel rejected its not fun but it is up to you how you react. I will recommend you to respond with kindness to them instead of reacting with anger or disappointment of not getting what you want. We must all learn the art of delaying gratification even though that might mean LET GO and FLOW...

About My Consultations

For more information about my work or for a private consultation or for a tarot reading with me, please check my website service page under http://www.elenaburnett.com/services. You will find tons of great valuable information about dating and relating, so hurry up!!!.

About Romance Books

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationships and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phone devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.

Advice on Relationships- How To Get a Second Date?

Romance Tips,

Question

There is Lack of Love in My Life I Don't Pass the Second Date. What is wrong with me?

Does it sound familiar? I am sure it does. First by looking at your situation I see a couple of things that need to be changed or taking into consideration.

1. Lack of love.
2. I don't pass the second date.
3. What's wrong with me.

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest, (this romance tips)

So here its something I want you to thing about it. 

What do you do when you go out on dates? Do you usually have sex with you "new friend" or do you control yourself and step aside from the excitement of the moment? In many cases, many women and sensitive guys will be persuaded to give it up too soon to the quick. BUT if love its what you are looking for, I want you to know that you are sabotaging the possibility of real romance. You are taking the easy road and will backfire on you.

You are responsible for the choices you make. So please be clear from the beginning about what is it that you are looking for when meeting a new person. Do it for you for them and refrain from going extra mile.



How to pass the second date?

Tip no 1. You can only pass the second day when you keep your legs cross. If he doesn't call you back after then that's his problem not yours. 

Tip no 2. Hmmm.... I will actually recommend you to read my first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates " . You will find in my 25 pages dating ebook tons of information about what to look for when dating. You can't miss it!!! 
here its the link -the fairy tale formula elena burnett.


Lets Find Out What's Wrong With You?

The truth its... noting its wrong with you, you just don't have the right information to know how doing your fifty percentage correctly. With my knowledge, you will more than be prepared to face the dating arena and make it work for you and remember one thing My Approach Works!

For a private consultation with me about your relationship or dating situation, for a private tarot reading too. please check my website service page under http://www.elenaburnett.com/services. You will find tons of great valuable information so hurry up!!!.


About my Romance Books

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationship and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My seond ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phones devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.

Advice on Relationships- A Trouble EX.

Hot Topics,

He left me, he has drinking problems. What Can I do?

In your case you are presented with two different situations,

1. He left you.
2. He has a drinking problem.

Usually most women after going through a break up have the tendency to go after their guy. They panic and become scared to lose their relationship. Notice that your behavior could easily turn him off since he already know you are there. He already knows what he needs to do to get you back. If he doesn't call you, if he is not chasing you its because he is not ready yet. He needs to think things out and most men need time to digest things out.

On the other hand, the fact that he has problems with alcohol tell me he is already trouble. The guy you are dating its not the real guy and probably if he gets sober you might not like him that much. He relationship its not with you but with drinking.

The Relationship Specialist Elena Burnett Suggest, (these romance tips)

Rule no1.
Set Healthy Boundaries Around YOU

First you need to be clear about what is it that you want and don't want out of a relationship, what is it that you really value and how much are you willing to put up.


Rule no 2.
Get a Mentor to Walk With you in the Right Path

Once you are clear with that's important for you, you need to ..... Well let leave it here for now. If this is the situation you are in, I can help you get it right. First I will recommend you to read some of my ebooks How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates http://www.amazon.com/The-Fairy-Tale-Formula-Three-ebook/dp/B00FI8B39G and 5 Easy Steps to Survive a Breakup (coming up in Dec. 8, 2013). You will find tons of valuable information about dating and relationships in either of my two ebooks. Specially what to look for in your date and how to deal with a break up..

About My Consultations

For more information about my work or for a private consultation or for a tarot reading with me, please check my website service page under http://www.elenaburnett.com/services. You will find tons of great valuable information about dating and relating, so hurry up!!!.

About Romance Books

I will also suggest you to read some of my strategies ebooks about relationship and dating tips, tools and solutions. My first ebook " How to Find the Love of Your Life in Three Dates' its already available in kindle under " The fairy tale formula " by Elena Burnett. My second ebook, " 5 Simple Steps To Survive a Break Up" will be available in kindle and phone devices on Dec. 8, 2013. These are easy ebook to read with tons and great info you can't miss.